Originally Posted by
MegWright
Obviously he wouldn't say she is ugly but I know all of my exs after we broke up weren't a ten in my eyes anymore and on top of that even if he thought she was he could have followed it up with something to make me feel better about myself after saying what he said or at least including the fact we are together as a reason he wouldn't go back to her
When you say this it sounds like you were fishing for compliments, and I have to wonder why you felt the need to do this. Does he not give you enough affirmation? If that's the case then you should probably find a more direct way to let him know that you would like more encouragement from him. Laying bait and hoping he takes it is too haphazard of an approach, not to mention it reeks of game playing - whether that was your intention or not.
They see indoctrination and they call it "morality", "professionalism", or "maturity" depending on the context.