But recently I find that I don't even know if I want kids...I've never actually had a feeling that I wanted them - I just figured it would kick in eventually.
Wow, never assume anything on something so big. That's a huge decision. Don't have kids unless you are sure you want them.
I have to admit that in the past months I haven't felt satisfied sexually. I think it mostly has to do with my mental state of being attracted to my boyfriend. When I met him I thought I had fallen into heaven and met the most gorgeous attractive man I would ever meet. But to be honest, when it came to sex there was never a big spark. It was in no means bad sex, but I never felt like it was explosive and passionate.
This is a tricky one. Do YOU have to have that spark? Because it's pretty hard to find, with all the other features you want. Or is this something you can compromise on?
I recommend people date at least 10 different people before getting married. Only with enough experience do you really know this person is "the one". You can't possibly know that unless you have more experience. You sound like you are suffering from lack of experience, that's why you are unsure. If you are unsure, DO NOT GET MARRIED. Period. It will not last. And don't let people pressure you into marriage either.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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