Is this a different guy or the same one? Anyway, yoyo, you really should work on asking for what you want. I'll repeat my previous advice to you, since it seems to be coming to pass. We warned you:
There aren't 'steps'. You aren't even asking the right question.
Girls (and I mean 'girls') like you may catch guys but you can't keep them. Men enjoy relationships best when things are clear and simple. They run when things get confusing and you are the textbook example of this.
If you must think 'steps' they are this:
1. Know what you want (not him, *you*). 2. Ask for what you want in a clear, respectful, situationally appropriate (you need help with this) way. 3. When you get what you want, appreciate it and show your appreciation. Enjoy.
That's it. Anything more complicated is unnecessary.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh