Will you guys marry a girl who has kids???? (please give me your opinion on this)

[vashti]

I would marry a girl who has kids as long as you were willing to have at least 4 or so kids with me... Obviously not all guys are like me... I can only speak for myself, I want at least 4 or 5 kids

Why? Are you Catholic? or Mormon?

[Illusional]

5 kids?? you're gonna have to start studying hard in college so you can get a good career to support all those little ones.

raverboy

[tooxshort]

another determining factor is whether or not all 3 kids are from the same man ...

[Illusional]

that is another good point shorty.

raverboy

[Charlie Boy II]

Is there a more irritating, idiotic saying than "everything happens for a reason"?

[ashscottish]

Is there a more irritating, idiotic saying than "everything happens for a reason"?

Even if it sounds irritating... But its true and it does..

Just to answer the question about the father of my kids.. Well they came from just one man. I had my first baby when I was 17, my ex and I really tried everything to work things out but then after 8 years of struggle nothing worked.. and its because of "Infidelity"..

And I dont think that I should be guilty of having them, I just have to stand up for my little ones because it was my choice..

What's sad is that some guys tend to discriminate women just by their past.. and not looking for what they can offer.. I dont think were that bad at all.... Dont look at us that way please...

[ashscottish]

Squirrley: Did I hit a jackpot???

Im pretty sure if my mom is still alive she will also say the same thing... I feel soo good.. Thank you very much!!!

[vashti]

What's sad is that some guys tend to discriminate women just by their past.. and not looking for what they can offer.. I dont think were that bad at all.... Dont look at us that way please...

I think men have the perfect right to decide that they are not interested in dating mothers. Everyone wants to be the most important person in someone else's life, even if it is only until they have babies together. When a guy dates a (good) mother, he will never get that opportunity. A good mother will always put the children's long-term needs above hers and her partner's. (Look at squirrely.)

I don't blame men for not wanting to make that kind of sacrifice for another man's children... it is asking a lot.

[TADA]

Is there a more irritating, idiotic saying than "everything happens for a reason"?

Jesus ****ing christ...THANK YOU!!

[squirrley]

yea yea it is irritating the ole saying but damn its true.

OMG Im such in a huge predicmate now. EVERY discussion I have with my husband he always comes back to the things I do for my son. He admits to me he wants to be numerol uno in my life and knows he cant RIGHT now. But another huge arguement broke out tonight about it. Its sucks.

A man has every right to choose who he gets involved with and he feels having a relationship with someone who has children isnt right for him, thats great. WE ALL HAVE reasons WHY we dont get involved with someone. BUT when you CHOOSE to get involved and get married than it sets other boundaries. It does set a precedent of what your relationship is now. Youve accepted the child or children and all be damned when the parent is there for their child were slammed for it. How is that fair?

[cuddlemonster]

single man = no way

man with kids of his own= welcome to the brady bunch

[Michael6084]

i would marry a single mom if i was in my 30s probably.

but considering im 18, its a big no-no.

[Only-virgins]

No, I would not. Doesn't matter what age I am.

[DoesntMatter]

I would marry someone who already had kids if:

1: You were willing to have more kids with me, preferrably at least 4

2: I was at least in my late 20s

3: I really liked you

4: I judged you to be a good mom

Keep in mind I'm only 18, so everything I say take with a grain of salt

[Masterofmind69]

Best to make male friends and go from there. You will scare most men off if all you want to do is date right away looking for marriage material. Make a few good male friends and see how it goes. If things click love will grow. Don't be in a hurry to find another man. Nobody likes desperation. I am not saying this to be mean but that's how I see it.

I had a friend who had a kid but moved in with her boyfriend and left her kid with her hubby grandparents which is a bad thing due to the facts I know. I would never fall in love with a bad mom. My step mom used to be so mean to us, so for me if you're a bad mom, I'm gone out the door.

Take your time don't rush, you don't want to make more mistakes.