Well first off he wants to get his head in order and he wants to concentrate on work he had a lot of family, health issues and a bereavement so he is going out with lads and not screwing or have a mistress?? We are two different people physically he just couldnt be bothered any more with sex and it was a drunken, shoulder to cry on kiss he doesnt even fancy her. I did fancy my guy I needed the attentions flattery and it was a mistake on my part to fall for it but I was craving it especially when he was much younger than me it was a lift. No I am fully aware of the financial situation but I am comfortably ok with my own savings I always saved up my own and have my own accounts in my name so that is ok. We will agree in a few weeks to sort this out and come to some agreement maybe draft out a contract with a solicitor will have to check all this out with a citizens advice place it's all new to me. But he is a genuine guy I have know for so long that wont screw me over and vice versa it's not in his nature to be vindictive our only crime was drifting out of love and our marriage not how it used to be.