I felt sick about this post for a minute, there's too many similarities between my fiance and I.
I felt sick about this post for a minute, there's too many similarities between my fiance and I.
Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. - Mohandas Gandhi
blue, i am sure we can all get over it. relationships become stale after a while. go out, get new hobbies together, make new friends. there are so many exciting opportunities to revive an old relationship. but never lose a good friend. when you are old and have no interest in sex, all you need is a friend. how old are you?
The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness, can be trained to do most things
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
i am 30, and most of my girlfriends do find that their relationships have lost the passion after a certain amount of time. it's all specific of course and depends on a couple. there's still love and respect and caring, and they do put the extra effort to spice up their lives by traveling, camping, going to nightclubs. trying new things in general.
The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness, can be trained to do most things
Ditto.
I don't know how these people who lost the attraction do it. It would become a friendship or something to me. I don't lose the passion. It's there in some way.
Ha, even my crazy ex is still attractive to me.
My partner is mad crazy about me. I just know. He tells me and he shows it.
Are you telling me that you don't know?
What kind of relationship are these people in??
If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~ Marilyn Monroe
how long have you been together?
The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness, can be trained to do most things
So first you try to attack me saying I'm young when really I am older than you...then you try to say my partner doesn't find me attractive...yeah way to go.
I'm with Lesa..my partner is head over heels in love with me. I think he is hot and he tells me constantly that he finds me sexy, attractive, hot etc
Sure relationships change over time but that is usually YEARS into a relationship or marriage. Not in the first 11 months of a relationship (which is what we are discussing in this thread). That is considered the honeymoon period when most couples find one another irresistible.
But then again..you're 30 years old so you would know all about that now wouldn't you?
Not that I know of. It was just the whole thing about both of them being 28, and her being formerly married and a bit insecure due to her ex's past behaviours......sounds a lot like our situation. For all intents and purposes, I fully believe my fiance is attracted to me. I was just thinking, wow wouldn't this be a bitch of a way to find out that he wasn't. Lol.
To the original poster......why is it you aren't attracted to her? Is she a generally unattractive person? Not your usual type? How serious is your relationship at this point?
Last edited by bluesummer; 26-11-08 at 02:49 PM.
Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. - Mohandas Gandhi
^^ Blue I don't think you need to worry. I have seen your pics. He will be attracted to you.
not so thinly veiled brag...
i personally think it's a communication issue, and i think someone can actually become more phsyically attractive (or at least turn you on more) as your communication becomes more clear and you connect on a deeper level. I think you need to tell her how much it bothers you when she compares you to her ex-husband, but also understand, it's hard for her not to, and try to be forgiving of that.