Not saying "I love you"

[Gigabitch]

Charlie Boy, if you weren't going away in four months, would you be telling her you love her? That's the impression I get, even though you've said that you don't think you'd really mean it.

Are you worried that if you said it and then it was time to go, you'd end up in some kind of inescapable Velcro LDR? Or are you just leery of going in the loveward direction?

I think the time to say it is when you feel it. If you love her, tell her, regardless of the consequences, and if you don't really love her, don't say it, even if you've gone past the six month mark.

[anachronistic]

I don't get that he is just ****ing her. I think that he actually cares about her.

I very much hope this.

[Charlie Boy II]

How the hell do you find it satisfying to just have some girl to basically ****? If I were you, I'd feel like I was wasting my time.

Lilly Wing you're a simple-minded, self-righteous idiot.

[Charlie Boy II]

Charlie Boy, if you weren't going away in four months, would you be telling her you love her? That's the impression I get, even though you've said that you don't think you'd really mean it.

Are you worried that if you said it and then it was time to go, you'd end up in some kind of inescapable Velcro LDR? Or are you just leery of going in the loveward direction?

I think the time to say it is when you feel it. If you love her, tell her, regardless of the consequences, and if you don't really love her, don't say it, even if you've gone past the six month mark.

Yeah maybe it would get to that point otherwise, but I'm definitely not "in love" with her now. Although that seems like a very elastic term. I mean do most people mean it when they say it these days, I think for some couples it's just a nice thing to say.

I'm not scared of ending up in a LDR because it's not going to happen. This is my big "see the world" trip and there's no way I'm spending it emotionally cut off from millions of exotic females with come-hither accents, while I send sappy emails back to Australia.

I don't want to give the impression that I'm in turmoil about this issue, I'm not. I'm not going to say it, and I don't even think she wants me to. She's never raised it. Just something about it feels a little odd.

Anyway, thanks all for the wise words. Except you Lilly Wing, you need to pull your head out from your behind.

[clynn]

It seems to me that by virtue of you leaving, neither you nor her are "open" to falling in love. You're both probably somewhat protecting yourselves, and also just not in the position where you would fall in love, as you're both pretty realistic.

There really is nothing to feel bad about, seems you both enjoy the time you spend together, and, like you said, soon enough you'll be off seeing the world....and even though it might be somewhat harder for her, as she is the one staying behind, in her normal day to day life......she sounds pretty awesome and pretty, so I'm sure she'll be having fun with other people pretty soon!!!

[anachronistic]

Lilly Wing you're a simple-minded, self-righteous idiot.

Well thank you.

... and you're a two-faced, full of shit baboon.

[Sybella]

Wow, the brutal honesty around here is astounding. I like it!

[Mathias]

[Sybella]

Kitty!!!!!!!

[Mathias]

Kitty!!!!!!!

[anachronistic]

that is one ugly ass cat.

.. i like his butt-chin.