Originally Posted by
omens
My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 months, I really love her. She started a new job which takes her to the middle of nowhere and it's been 9 days since I last saw her, she is coming to visit me tomorrow evening and she called me in tears saying how she doesn't know that she can make this work.
If she ever says that to you again the only way out of the situation is complete honesty. Tell her that if she feels that she can't make it work then she probably won't and it's best if you parted ways. This is probably the last thing you would want to say as a loving partner, but try putting yourself into her shoes when hearing something like that. Instead of being met with pleas to stay, she is suddenly confronted with reality, which is if she can't make something work, then she is free to leave. There's nothing holding her. She is suddenly free to make up her own damn made about what she wants. She can play the selfish person and leave or she can put in an effort and try. I've done this once before. You'll be amazed how quickly people change their mind if given a choice.
However, if she doesn't it's best to let her go.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~