How long can a guy stay in denial?

[Charlie Boy II]

What? I thought you were saying they weren't physically intimate, like you and your friend?

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

No not at all. I was just saying they probably arent really together, as in relationship wise. I only brought my situation in cuz people always say we are in denial and I get pissed when people assume we are together when we are not.

[Mish]

No not at all. I was just saying they probably arent really together, as in relationship wise. I only brought my situation in cuz people always say we are in denial and I get pissed when people assume we are together when we are not.

Well, they sure got everything but the title I'll give them that

But, perhaps you're right. Maybe they're just crutching one another until they both find someone better.



Though I reckon someone's gonna get hurt really bad..

[Charlie Boy II]

I did the same thing with a girl for about three or four months before Kristen. We'd hang out all the time and were intimate, but I got really stroppy if anyone referred to her as my girlfriend. It was just something to fill the void and that's probably what your mate's doing.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Well, they sure got everything but the title I'll give them that

But, perhaps you're right. Maybe they're just crutching one another until they both find someone better.



Though I reckon someone's gonna get hurt really bad..

Which wouldnt be surprising, especially if he gets jealous and/or vice versa. I think their friendship will end like a bad relationship.

[Mish]

I did the same thing with a girl for about three or four months before Kristen. We'd hang out all the time and were intimate, but I got really stroppy if anyone referred to her as my girlfriend. It was just something to fill the void and that's probably what your mate's doing.

Maybe

Though they meet each other's parents, do family gatherings, go to all parties together and don't leave each other's sight. She's even making decisions for him, whom to see, what to wear... so you know what it looks like from the outside.

[IndiReloaded]

I'm moving out in 2 weeks

Are you moving in w/your lady, Mish?

[Mish]

Are you moving in w/your lady, Mish?

By myself for now

This could be my last taste of personal freedom

[IndiReloaded]

Oh nono. You just make sure you have a room (aka 'the cave') that is understood to be your space. So long as nothing crawls or smells too bad in there, she stays out.

[Mish]

Spoke to him today about the moving out that will happen this weekend, he'll help me move a few things. He said he's planning to move as well shortly. Then he said he's planning to move to a new place with her. I asked him why and he shared some of this insight.

So, this is what he thinks. He wants to move to a new place with her, but only because it's convenient. He doesn't want it to lead anywhere and he's strongly opposed to any long term relationship with her. I told him it doesn't make sense to me, that he's planning to continue living with her, but is against any type of relationship. It sounds to me like just a waste of time for both of them, but it's his life and it's his burden to bear. He said he can't be bothered looking for someone new at the moment, too much responsibility at work and she's okay for now. I don't understand why some people do that.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Mishie Poo(LOL...just kidding please dont kill me)

I think people do that to fill that spot of loneliness. Right now I actually feel like I'm doing the same thing. We're just friends, I actually lay on his lap and fall asleep sometimes, and we cuddle and watch tv also. I really like him, but when relationship is mentioned I get this bad feeling in my stomach. I reeeaaallllyyy dont wanna do the relatonship thing with him, but it feels good having him around making me feel good. Your friend sounds like this, on a way more extreme level though. Maybe his heart is elsewhere. But yea moving out is probably the best idea. Next thing you know she starts to move on you and it turns into some Jerry Springer shit

"I'm messing with my **** friend who's not my boyfriend's roommate"

[Only-virgins]

My room mate still denies that the girl who's living in his bedroom and sleeping in his bed for the last 5 months is his girlfriend.

Maybe they are just having sex but don't consider each other GF BF thing?

[IndiReloaded]

Who cares? Ppl stay in dead-end jobs, relationships, careers, etc b/c its too much effort not to. When its worth it to him/her to do something different, they will. You just enjoy your new place, away from the drama of them 24/7.

[Mish]

I had an entirely different conversation with her today. Not mentioning anything said or bringing up the subject all together. Looks like, she now wants to manage his money I just gave a her a "Good luck with that" smile.



Sometimes I think these people came here to earth from a different planet.