An Affair state of mind

[Mish]

All of this would never happen if people just took the time to find a compatible partner to begin with.

[Petit Papillon]

I think it's worse for kids to see that their parents don't love each other,fight and have other partners on a side than when they are appart and pretend to be friends.Why?Cause they are hoping all the time that their parents still can be together.The longer it is that way, the bigger disappointment they experience after.Know from my own experience.

[qwertz]

fighting is much worse than seperated parents 'getting on' in front of their kids.

[starbuck]

Mr. Lonely, did you try marriage counselling before you decided your marriage failed?

[Gigabitch]

Plus the fact I never had a say in how my own daughter was raised and now she treats me like she is my second wife. Like I'll say you don't know how even my own daughter treats me (and leave the obvious remarks behind please)


She'll always be my little princess.

How do these two statements work together?

[Perryville]

Dude, you need to get your head out of your A**, and start to put your child first. I divorced my wife, but even with all the trouble, WE NEVER FOUGHT IN FRONT OF THEM. That is inexcusable!! Rather than argue, cheat, and be selfish, try manning -up. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but this is one of my pet peeves. Parents, who put themselves ahead of their kids.

[MrLonely]

Selfish or not its a 2 way situation. People saying put your kids first but that statement never makes sense. How? By staying married? Nope.. Ain't gonna work.. in any situation.

Maybe I am putting myself in front of my kid but you know what so be it... I love my daughter but I am not going to stay with my wife because we have children, I will always be there for my daughter in any way she needs me / wants me to be so It's not like I am totally just going to say f' you guys c ya later.

But me myself ALSO have a life to take care of on the other hand... It's not like my life just stopped and had no more meaning as soon as my princess got born. Nope... Checked my pulse and yes I am still alive..

[Petit Papillon]

Who told You to stay in marriage for kids?? GET A DIVORCE YOU CHEATER, cause You clearly are a cheater as long as ou're married living with Your wife in the same house... You should get a divorce and stay friends with Your wife for the sake of You kids.Don't know if You can read or not. Better divorced but happy and friendly to each other parents, than married parents hating each other...

Or just leave Your wife and kids, don't pay any money and don't visit them and become a dick . But the woman You have an affair now with, don't think about future with them because there is no future together. Just FYI. Why? You can't build happiness on unhappiness of others...