Originally Posted by
UnnamedSong
Not to seem like I have ignored anything you have said... But...
Given a person's past, it can be hard to deal with some things. Everyone is different, views life differently, approaches things differently. You view sex, casual sex anyway it seems, quite differently than her, or a lot of people. While I myself never practiced, and never can understand how another person could practice, casual sex... It's simply not my business. If my girlfriend had several partners in the past, but is with me NOW, and faithful NOW, what should I care about her past for? If that were the life she wanted, that would be the life she was still living.
This is similar to my beliefs as I stated with my ex what was in her past was before me after all she may not have liked my past either. As long as you can trust her as I did.
Some people make mistakes in their past. Some people just flat out change. Maybe things that were fun in her past, or that she never really thought about in the moment, that she feels very differently about now. If you want to keep her, you need to find a way to let go of a past that isn't even yours to worry about in the first place. If you dig into her past, what will that accomplish?
You say you can't handle what you don't know. Think long and hard about it. Assume she had a "bad" past. Say she slept a lot of people, whatever... I mean, who knows. At some point she changed, she is in love with you, faithful to you, wants a future with YOU, no matter the past she had, this is the present. Is learning about something you'll possibly be unable to cope with, that is done, over, finished, not your problem... worth losing her? If it's worth the risk by all means press it. But if you love her enough and want to keep her, let go of all that stuff, and just see her for who she is now. People change. See them for what they are, not what they were.