S O S - I am lost

[djs20]

I am glad you said that because I already put the plan in motion. I spoke with her boss and she's going to sneak me in and hid me in VIP (away from my girlfriend's section) until it's time. You are right about the busy night. I have thought about that - I want this to work, but I can't get disappointed when she is too busy to really say much. My plan is to approach her during the countdown, which should be the one slow point of the night. I want to give her a big kiss and hug, tell her happy new year, and then leave. I am really anxious about this though.

[shheadz]

I hope your plan and your relationship works out. Make sure you don't get lazy when you two get back together. This is the kind of stuff you should be doing all along.

[djs20]

Thanks! I really hope things go well too (obviously). After the hug/kiss and I give her the spa card, I plan to tell her to relax and contact me web she's ready, say happy new year and walk away. Hopefully it will be short and powerful enough to make her feel better about us.

Once we get back on track, i can assure you that this communication issue that caused our problems will NOT happen again!

[djs20]

So I went up to her club last night. When I got there the place was packed. I mixed myself in with the crowd and asked a waitress which section my girlfriend was in. She pointed her out to me and then I just kept my eye on her for the next few minutes to ensure she didn't see me.

Once the countdown started, I approached her and she was busy pouring drinks for people (bottle service tables). She looked up and I leaned in and kissed her. She said, hold on baby. She had to finish making the drinks and hand them out. Then I leaned in again and kissed her. Both times were just for a second. She again was like, hold on a second.

So, I backed away from the table, and let her continue with the drink making madness. She looked up at my after about 30 seconds and gave me the universal "one second" sign with her index finger. Once she finished with the drinks, she picked up a bunch of empty glasses and then walked to me.

I told her, hey I know you're busy, I just wanted to say happy new year and that I love you. We then kissed for a second, she said that she loved me, that I looked nice, and then I told her that I'd talk to her later. As I walked away, her right hand was in my left hand and she squeezed it, like a little sign of affection.

And that was it. Short and simple. But I think it went well. I decided not to give her the spa gift certificate because I had a feeling she was going to be too busy for that. I am glad I didn't bring it in with me because it just wouldn't have worked out well - she was slammed with work. Hopefully I will find a better time for that.

I didn't hear from her last night. But today, she sent a text to me that said, "Thank you so very much for coming last night. It was such a sweet thing to do. I'm sorry I was so busy. I felt so horrible that you left so quickly. My night was crazy! Did you have a good night?"

My response, "You're very welcome baby! I knew you'd be swamped, I just wanted to kiss you at midnight. You looked really sexy by the way. I had a good night. Did you make money?"

She said, "I did make money! And thank you...I forgot you hadn't seen my purple dress "

I told her, "Good, I'm glad - you were definitely busy. And yes, I hadn't seen it before, but I won't forget it "

I spoke with one of our mutual friends earlier (this friend is my best friend's wife, the same girl that my girlfriend speaks with about the whole situation, they have been close friends for several years). My girlfriend told her that it she thought it was very romantic. She also said that at first, when I went to kiss her as she was making drinks, she thought it was a person at her table trying to kiss her. That's why she pulled back, and then realized it was me. Which is when she to me to hold on a second.

So, overall, I think it was a good thing. I didn't stay long, just like I had planned. And she apparently liked it. Now, I guess my next move is to continue to let her contact me and dictate the speed of things. Since she told me she needed time and space on Monday, I backed off, and she has contacted me (either through text or phone) every day.

I want to try to take her out on a date, but I don't think I should disrupt what seems to be working. At least not yet. She has dance practice tonight, and then works at the same club all night. Tomorrow she is off. But then Sunday she has a football game to dance at, so the whole day will be consumed with that. Depending on what happens with the game, she might be done with dance for the season. I am remaining hopeful that once her schedule slows (sometime this month), we will find time to reconnect. I suppose I just have to ride it out for now. I want make a move to get more from her, but it's not about me, and I think I need to just let her control the pace. I don't know if she will ever come back around, but I do know now, if I pressure her, she definitely will leave.

Happy New Year!

[sookie6]

What a beautiful story djs20.

You were thoughtful and romantic...Well done!
You tick all the boxes for the perfect bfriend behaviour.
Let us know how it goes...

Happy New Year to you both!