losing my virginity (should i just pay for sex?)

[vashti]

"Pop off quickly" and "short refractory period" makes me think of more than 2 in an hour...

Well, you have to get your money's worth, after all!

[Kaius]

You have to ask the provider if you are allowed multiple pops. Most asian providers only allow one pop, so you shouldn't go to them.
You want to go for a reputable provider in your area, who is clean, drug-free, safe and experienced.
The good providers often offer multiple pops, and really treat you like a boyfriend. This is called GFE (girlfriend experience).
Worst place to go is Nevada brothels. STAY AWAY! Bunch of ripoffs and very impersonal.
How do I know this? My MBA thesis was "The Prostitution Industry". 6 months of intense research.

[the_robot]

Well, you have to get your money's worth, after all!

lol I meant 2 times seems like a waste of money

And seriously people, do you think loosing it to a prostitute is going to do any good? I think it would depress me. Badly.

[Incognito]

Wow! Intense research huh? LOL. I'm not mocking you at all if anyone is getting that impression. I just thought it was funny to compare ****ing to intense research, if that is indeed what you meant.

@ the original poster: If you were desperately in need of sex for physical reasons then I could see you going to a prostitute, but not just to lose your virginity. You day will come (pun intended) one day. Sexual experience shouldn't be what gives you confidence when approaching women anyway for two reasons. Reason 1: If you have sex with a prostitute once, it was only once. That is not much experience. Reason 2: How many women have you met that said "ohhhh yeah I like you, but how many women have you slept with? The more the better"? None, that's how many, nor will you meet such a woman. Find other ways to boost your confidence like going out with friends, or just biting the bullet and being shot down until you find a girl who is interested in you.

[VincenzoG91]

The first couple of times I had sex, it was awkward and not a great experience, but at least there was an emotional connection with the girl, so it was still okay.

The first few times I had sex with a call girl, it also wasn't a great experience. By then, I was accustomed to a certain amount of affection with sex, and that is usually missing in a transaction with an escort. The no kissing part was kind of chilling, and it was annoying if they left their phone on during sex, with every call representing another customer waiting. One time, I was doing it doggy style with an escort and she answered the phone and got directions to her next call while we were doing it. I almost lost my erection during that phone call. I always wore a condom and never caught a disease. Maybe 25% of the time, it was really enjoyable, and 25% of the time, it was a bad time. There were the clock watchers who wanted me to hurry up and finish, and the ones who were in a bad mood because of something the previous customer said or did wrong. And then there were the ones who just didn't look good. A couple of times, the escort left without coming inside because I "look like a cop."

Overall, some of the best sex that I ever had was in the context of a relationship. And some of the other best sex that I ever had was with an escort. Sometimes the emotional connection of a relationship really makes the experience special. And sometimes it felt really good to just bang an experienced stranger without needing to talk to her much after it was over.

I gave up the escorts 8 years ago, and have no regrets either way. I won't spend money that way anymore, because I'm in a committed relationship. But I'm glad that I had the experience, both good and bad, because otherwise I would have always wondered.

If I had to live my life all over again, I would have probably tried escorts at an earlier stage, during those frustrating years in my early 20s. But overall, I would have spent less on escorts and more on just dating.

[VanessaFR]

Would you feel ok with yourself if you went to a prostitute? If your answer to this question is yes, then go ahead

I don't see what's so terrible about that. I say go for it. Just make sure you both agree what you paid for - then the whole act should become more pleasant.

Love,
VanessaFR