obsessed with younger woman

[lyle0729]

How would you feel if your daughter dated a man just about your age??? And she asked for your advice... though she's married... and has kids. You get ther picture.

I'm sorry, but your behavior is entirely too selfish. Of course, I can't hold your feelings against you, but your desire to ACT on it is what gets me. My advice-- go cold turkey on her. Forever. I have a fear of men doing the same to me when I am older... and this is the exact reason why. You're out of your mind to ask your daughter about this; she would just think you're a pig and she'll DEFINITELY tell your wife.

Let me tell you my story-- My father who was 35 at the time, left overseas for a "business trip" when I was about two. After another child who is 3 years-old child and another on the way, my mom caught him having an affair with this woman overseas this whole time. He abandoned my family and traded us in for this woman who was 19 at the time he met her. This "baby on the way" was two months when this happened. He eventually married her, and my life was hell up until I was about 15-- I'm 19 now. I would love to go into details if it makes you feel bad enough.

I can't tell you how much this has left me with so much mistrust even to this day. For example, my fear of which I just mentioned about me feeling not "good enough" for a man so he will leave me, and the loads of low self-esteem that comes with it.

[VincenzoG91]

I would consider a hand job cheating.

I agree, but some people actually themselves that it's only sex if there is intercourse. President Clinton would be an example.

[blent]

Tinytalent... don't just shrug off or hide how you feel, that's unhealthy. Yes, maybe your wife and daughter will be unhappy with it, but who are they to judge? Nobody can choose how they feel about another person, it just happens. I'm not saying you should go up to this girl and unload your feelings, but if it makes you happy to be around her, then GO be around her, EVERYONE has a right to be happy. You are never too old to change your life around, you aren't dead yet, so go enjoy your life. Marriage is not intended to imprison you, if your wife becomes jealous after 25 years of marriage, then something is wrong with HER, not you.

[sparkle_jello]

Tinytalent... don't just shrug off or hide how you feel, that's unhealthy. Yes, maybe your wife and daughter will be unhappy with it, but who are they to judge? Nobody can choose how they feel about another person, it just happens. I'm not saying you should go up to this girl and unload your feelings, but if it makes you happy to be around her, then GO be around her, EVERYONE has a right to be happy. You are never too old to change your life around, you aren't dead yet, so go enjoy your life. Marriage is not intended to imprison you, if your wife becomes jealous after 25 years of marriage, then something is wrong with HER, not you.

Ummm, his wife has every right to be jealous and angry that her husband is STALKING a woman the age of his daughter. It's freaking creepy.

[lyle0729]

The FEELING itself is not wrong and I agree it is unhealthy to shrug it off; its a matter of how you deal with it. Shrugging it off will only resurface the feelings.

[hello1]

Old creepy man alert!! nee haw

[Only-virgins]

Hi All, I thank you all for your comments. I think I catch on - you are all saying the same thing. Your comments are the slap I needed to figure this out. Words like "creepy," "stalking," etc. cause me to think: "Is this the kind of person I am or want to be?" Of course not. Like I mentioned earlier, I don't know where this came from and it might take me a while to get over it. But I am an adult and I have control over my behavior. You have convinced me not to act on this; to behave in a way what causes nobody any discomfort. All parties involved, the girl, my wife, my daughter do not deserve the stuff that my behavior would cause. You have saved me a lot of embarrassment and I can't thank you all enough.

Good. Welcome to maturity and proper moral behavior. Hope your stay isn't short lived and you realize that there are more important things in life then satisfying your quick crave for instant gratification. stay faithful to your wife.