I want to marry my g/f but times are hard.

[doppelgaenger]

oh, and i love how everyone thinks that they are a good couple knowing almost nothing about them, lol. i guess it's the right thing to say, huh?

I love how you just jump to conclusions about everybody's knowledge.

[Sonrisa]

well Fras hasn't been pouring his soul out here about his relationship as much others have been.

[Junket]

well Fras hasn't been pouring his soul out here about his relationship as much others have been.

The only time I ever really post about our relationship is when I'm bitching about something.

Yes, I love her very much, she makes me very happy, and I do my best to keep her happy as well, (so far I've been very successful).

There's several reasons why I would be happy to marry her, while I do not personally care for the act of marriage, I understand it means a lot to her, and her family, and I would like her to know that despite differences in our views, I believe she's worth it, and I believe she's earned it.

Yes, I would like to have children with her one day, that's why I'm busting my ass trying to get in a good place within the next 5 years. The economy sucks, but I came up to the NE where there's 11.8% unemployment, where trades are one of the hardest hit industries, and I've managed to keep a pay check coming in almost every week since August. In fact, by the end of this week I will have a raise, whether it's through this company, or another company.

I'm a badass yankee motherf*cker.

[vashti]

well Fras hasn't been pouring his soul out here about his relationship as much others have been.

Actually, he used to....he'd write the most beautiful stuff. Seriously - I often thought he should write romance novels.

[Junket]

Actually, he used to....he'd write the most beautiful stuff. Seriously - I often thought he should write romance novels.

Longing has that effect on men.

Fortunately, women are incredibly receptive in response.

[tooxshort]

Yup ... I feel like I know Fras' relationship quite well. It's like a TV show or somethin' ...

F*ck a ring though ... tell her folks that too.

[Mish]

Now you just reminded me of some old movie where a woman dies when her wedding ring gets caught in a filter at the bottom of a pool.

Final destination?

[Cbrider]

I like how my Dad explained his spin on rings and marriage.

My friend recently got married and proposed with a $5,000 ring. I was kind of floored about that and mentioned it to my dad when we were talking. He said it was absolutely ridiculous to spend that kind of money on a ring and have an extravagant wedding; in essence a fancy one day celebration. He said get a $1500 ring and put the rest towards a down payment on a house. Don't spend $18,000 or whatever the new average cost is on a wedding because its a waste for one day. Upgrade the ring down the road. Its how he did it and my dad and I are parallel thinkers.

He is by no means "right," meaning there is no other way to do it, but what he said made plenty of sense to me. That's how he did, he came from almost nothing and is happily retired with his cabin, toys and all the other stuff he has always wanted at 57. Controlling spending early and picking your splurges carefully pays off.

[doppelgaenger]

My ex always nagged at me about giving her a ring, and when I finally gave it to her, which cost me $1.5k, we broke up. At least Fras's woman doesn't nag like that - you can tell they will have a pretty long-lasting relationship.

[Mish]

Only she broke up with you for OTHER reasons, the ring not being one of them^

Fras, in the end it comes down to being with the right woman. There's a certain type of women out there who prefer the expensive rings and weddings (probably because deep down inside they are insecure and have a need to show off how much they are worth in material terms) and there is another type of women who have a completely different set of values. I think your girl is of the second type so you really don't need to worry in that regard.

[Sonrisa]

have you heard abouth Charlie Sheen's 150k watch? the same happens with rings. they get lost, stolen, etc.

[elfen31]

I agree your gf sounds like a girl after my own heart. I don't care about ginormous diamonds...it's the relationship that matters......just get her a simple ring....trust me...if she's worth her salt, she'll just be happy to be making it official with you......