Like A Boyfriend Without Sex

[leoben]

He sounds just like a guy I know that has major sex issues and is super insecure about it. Spends all of his time running after women he knows wont be interested and making excuses why he can't date the ones that are. Loudly trumpets his pursuits to try and convince himself and everyone around that hes a healthy, functioning guy who is just unlucky in love and so far it's worked, not too many people have picked up on it.

I think you could have been megan fox and if you showed interest, he would have stuck you in the friend zone.

[xxazurexx]

One thing the guy in my situation didn't talk about, was other love interests - think he knew he'd upset me if he did.

I'd get back on the dating site if I was Tyger. I mean there are other guys on there and guys who won't just want to friend you either. You will probably wonder why you wasted your time on him and when some other guy comes along who pays you 'real and loving' attention.

I like the post above....could be some truth in that also ^^

[TygerTyger]

Leoben...wow! You actually are echoing *exactly* the thought I had about this...so interesting!!! I wondered if this is the sort of situation where once he finds out someone is interested, he backs off. And he'll pursue situations where it's unlikely the girl will be available. After almost a year of dating, and many interested women, seems by now he'd have found something since alot of people seem to like him and want to initiate sex/intimacy. One woman apparently "lectured" him about this, saying he needed to initiate it because he wouldn't..even though he was dating her. He explained to me he wants to hang out with someone for a long long time so he can evaluate how well they get along, if he'd be able to connect with her and stay with her long term..it's like every woman he goes out with has to be evaluated over a long time as a potential lifelong partner and no sex until this has been determined.

His need to be in love with the person he sleeps with, and know they love him back was demonstrated to an almost extreme degree the first night we went out, when he told me about a girl he was with once, where, after he initiated sex, she said she didn't love him anymore. He told me he had a "very very bad physical reaction" to this..I can only guess he threw up or something, I don't know what else it could be. That's pretty extreme. It was the thought of having sex with someone who actually didn't love him.

I still keep going back to his being physically abused by his step father, and watching the fights go on between his mother and him. She's also due in next month for her 8th..yes 8th marriage. You can't grow up around this and not have it affect you.

Oh and yes, I've been open to dating ever since the first night he said "no spark" to me.