i lied, now what...

[Frenchguy]

Oh btw, if it has any importance, it wasn't on some meeting website or so we met, and we weren't looking for someone.
We met on a irc chat to learn French where i was helping out people on my free time.

[Frenchguy]

Tell him the truth.
He will be upset that you lied to him, however, if he loves you for anything else than your appearance, he will forgive you with some time. If he only loves you for your appearance, or how he thought you look like in this case, he isn't worth it anyways.
I'm assuming you have feelings for him btw ?

Why i said that btw, is because if she had lied to me on how she looks like, and then tell me the truth,it would have upset me, but i would have forgiven her with some time and try and understand the reasons why she did.

[Nameless18]

LOL. This situation seems soooo familiar. I in fact have been in a situation and as a guy, it really suck ass. I felt the deceit and anger when i'm told that she lied to me. I can't accept that fact and didnt contact her. Though i really like her, she lied to me even before we knew each other well. I left her. the end. Sad to say that most guys are shallow and since you lied to him about your own appearance, to be frank, he'll not forgive you.

[easilyconfused]

My experience was quite different but more or less the same. And it will give you a bit of hope but not much.

I met this guy called Gareth using what was popular in 1997 - a dating telephone line - it was free for girls. Anyway everything he told me seemed true - he lied about everything though - his little brother's name - his name etc. He was very true to me though - we sent each other gifts and he even purchased a pair of Gucci shoes for me - so I can safely say he felt alot for me. He eventually realised he could no longer live with the lies and I was so naive I didn't think to ask for a picture - he sounded so true and I couldn't believe he'd lied. When he eventually told me - I was like - I don't care - I have strong feelings for you as a person. But then when I started to think about it, it hurt that he'd lied - I felt I loved someone else - not him - he was the same person, same voice but somehow different. Dunno if that makes any sense but just come clean. Let me know how you go - you have to do this - it isn't fair to you or him.

Well, I did it, thanks to all of you. I always knew it was the right thing, just never had the courage. I told him everything last night. I told him online, but he asked me to call him. We talked on the phone for 2 hours, he couldn't have been more gracious and kind. Not to say he wasn't upset and extremely confused. He said he needed time to think about it and would call me. I am now waiting to see if I've lost him for good, I know that I don't deserve him, but I am still hoping. Thanks to all of you for your advice. I am so glad I found this site!!

[easilyconfused]

Best thing to do? Ditch your screenname(s) and e-mail(s) and come up with new ones. It'll look as you've just dissappeared. That's a chicken option, but an option nonetheless.
Edit: Just realized he has your phone number...unless you're willing to change that too, can't help ya. You believe in karma?

Yes, I do definitely believe in Karma.... and I tried to dissappear and just stop talking to him several times, but I just missed him so much. I know, selfish me. But last night I told him the truth, and am now awaiting the fall out. Thanks for your advice though!!

[easilyconfused]

Why i said that btw, is because if she had lied to me on how she looks like, and then tell me the truth,it would have upset me, but i would have forgiven her with some time and try and understand the reasons why she did.

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Thank you for that, and I did tell him the truth last night. You were right, he did try to understand, and was very kind. I am waiting to see if I have lost him forever. And to answer your question, yes, I definitely have feelings for him.

[jakki2903]

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Thank you for that, and I did tell him the truth last night. You were right, he did try to understand, and was very kind. I am waiting to see if I have lost him forever. And to answer your question, yes, I definitely have feelings for him.

Well done - this is the first step to the future if it works out then all the best - if not you've done the right thing. Have u sent him the real picture of yourself?

[easilyconfused]

Well done - this is the first step to the future if it works out then all the best - if not you've done the right thing. Have u sent him the real picture of yourself?

Yes, I sent him a picture of myself, and a copy of my work ID with picture,,,lol so he would have no doubt that I was not lying now. He is still talking to me, says he is actually intrigued by me,,,believe it or not! Wants to get to know me, the real me, and see what happens. I am flabbergasted, but thankful and excited.

[Junket]

I would say you should still tread with some caution though...