its my birthday and i feel like crap

[DarkHelmet82]

can you pm me the ip please.

[VincenzoG91]

Maybe DH got a sock puppet for his birthday.

[DarkHelmet82]

my work ip is routed into a govt server so that could be it..not sure but whatever.. i have no reason to create an alias.

[DarkHelmet82]

damnit! why did she have to txt me... ugh.. she said "happy birthday! i hope youre having a good day ".

[leoben]

You aren't getting enough attention on Darkhelmet?

[DarkHelmet82]

damnit its not my alias...lol.. i have no need to pretend im someone else.

[Wakeup]

So, tell us why do you let her affect you like that? If you can't control how she makes you feel then you should make it so she can't control you anymore and block and delete her from your world. Even if that means changing your cell phone number.

[DarkHelmet82]

So, tell us why do you let her affect you like that? If you can't control how she makes you feel then you should make it so she can't control you anymore and block and delete her from your world. Even if that means changing your cell phone number.

I think its quite obvious she has NO CLUE what she wants, and is dragging me into the trenches with her. But you are right and to answer that ....I dont know If i did i wouldnt be this damn miserable. Im going to a doctor in the next few days once i get an appointment.. maybe they can shed some light on why im so damn crazy.

I cant change my number.. i guess i could just ignore her though.

[Wakeup]

The very fact that she contacted you while you ignore, just keeps her forfront in your thoughts. Wondering what was in her contact would driive ya batty. So: You have to change up how you react when she does contact if you won't/can't change your number.

You can change how you react by disassociating her with something good and re-associating her with something unpleasant. Once you can do that, then when she contacts you will react differently, without longing and eventually when you don't long for her anymore, you'll be indifferent to the crumbs she sends.

Good idea, the doc appointment. Even something as benign as a vitamin D deficiency can make us cling to unpleasant emotional responses. I've been there and once my Vit. D was back up to normal with supplements, I snapped right out of it...

[MerryH]

Unless Im a scizophrenic and dont know or something lol

I guess that's possible since it's pretty obvious that you're sweetdreams, too. You both type the exact same way. Huh! So which one of you is living in reality? The one that is miserable because of a breakup or the one who has been dating someone for years and likes to snoop through her text messages and delete them?

Anyway, happy birthday, you two!

[flynhayn]

You can change how you react by disassociating her with something good and re-associating her with something unpleasant.

That's one of the biggest things that always helped my get over someone. Don't confuse it with bitterness, though. Just a simple realization of some unattractive traits about her that will also come to mind whenever she pops in your head. It effectively reduces the feeling of missing them.

Someone who can't figure out what they want but will allow themselves to get caught up in different directions is a VERY unattractive thing. It's definitely something that would be big enough to overshadow a lot of good traits about that person, and easily allow me to turn away from them to give them time to change. Just saying.

[DarkHelmet82]

i dont see how its obvious as its not me.. but yeah... accoriding to the snooping Ive done sweetdreams is a female who lives near husdon river park... pretty hard if thats me as I live 180 miles north of there.. what i find interesting is how we can be sharing an IP...

thanks for the birthday wish.

[DarkHelmet82]

That's one of the biggest things that always helped my get over someone. Don't confuse it with bitterness, though. Just a simple realization of some unattractive traits about her that will also come to mind whenever she pops in your head. It effectively reduces the feeling of missing them.

Someone who can't figure out what they want but will allow themselves to get caught up in different directions is a VERY unattractive thing. It's definitely something that would be big enough to overshadow a lot of good traits about that person, and easily allow me to turn away from them to give them time to change. Just saying.

thats pretty much it in a nutshell... it IS unattractive.. i dont want to be with someone who doesnt have any clue what they want...

Im not saying im not being an idiot and I know what I have to do.. but I guess my way of handling it needs work which hopefully a professional can give some insight on.

[MerryH]

i dont see how its obvious as its not me.. but yeah... accoriding to the snooping Ive done sweetdreams is a female.

That would be convenient, but no, sweetdreams is a male. But you already knew that because you visited his profile.

thanks for the birthday wish.

You're welcome.

[MerryH]

Honestly, though, I hope your doctor's appointment goes well.

I mean it. No snark in this post.