My girlfriend DENIES what she is doing is wrong! I need some desperate feedback!

[DannyH]

This is why if you are not a gamer do not date a gamer. 9 times out of 10 the games will win. Just move on. She may eventually stop talking to that dude but down the road there will be another.

[VincenzoG91]

Hate the game and not the player?

[smackie9]

I have been in her shoes. I'm just going by my experience. She got bored and found someone more fun to hang with.

[devonbrown]

The OP is in love with being in a relationship. He is in love with being in love. He needs to realize that this feeling has nothing to do with his cheating gf, because she hasn't done anything to make love blossom here.

He doesn't want to end the relationship, he just wants her to fundamentally change. That's not going to happen. The thing that can be salvaged out of this situation is himself. And that will only come at the expense of the relationship. He just needs to come to that conclusion on his own.

[HeartIsAching]

I'm gonna start with her, then move on to you.

She has cheated on you. Accept that fact. Whether or not she's cheated with him physically is immaterial, she's already made her preference clear, and you're a fallback position. Your relationship with her is comfortable and safe, and she knows you're a pushover that will accept her lies.

Your relationship did NOT get stronger from her episode of cheating - your roles got better defined. She now knows that she can tell you outrageous lies and you'll accept them. This will empower her to do it again, as there were no consequences the last time. This unfortunately a byproduct of love - if you truly love someone, you must trust them, which gives them a lot of power to hurt you. She has, and she will again.

You basically have two choices:

You can stay, accepting that she'll do it again, and knowing that she doesn't really love you, or you can walk.

I'm voting for "Walk".