Could it be that...

[confusius]

Man, I understand you guys. But I think I have seen it all already. Trust me. I still wonder how I'm alive haha. I remember my counselor would always ask me if I don't feel like hurting somebody or myself. I know that she got a new boyfriend already. That was 3.5 weeks after the breakup. One night, after I spent some quality time with my friends, I walked in the apartment to see them sitting in the living room. She was in his arms. I argued a bit with her asking if was doing it in purpose. She told me they had nowhere else to go. The guy even stood up to me. I'm glad I didn't slap the shit out of him. They ran out of the apartment that night for me to find out later in the morning they probably slept together in the room next door. After that, I saw her new boyfriend around the apartment several other times. Yep!

I wasn't happy when she would spend time with her exes (that's really the reason why the relationship turned sour). You know what she did? well she invited one of those exes in the apartment on spring break. They were sleeping in the same room. Although she had a roommate. I don't know how they made it work. One of our suitemates had made a facebook page to keep everyone posted for things we need in the apartment and such. Well I left for spring break to do a week long community service. I received a message on facebook, sent through the suite's facebook page, saying that the room was messy with bottles of alcohol everywhere, with a used condom on the trash can in the bathroom. I later asked her about that, when she was complaining to me how that other girl likes to get involved in things that doesn't concern her, she said it wasn't a used condom and that they were (her and the ex) playing around with it. I didn't say anything and she looked at me saying that I'm judging her again. She also brought that ex of hers over my friends' place. They were all surprised and they called me to let me know.

Then there are the times that my friends would ask me if she is dating one or one other guy because the way they were dancing at the party was very....if you see what I mean. Then other of my friends would tell me that they saw her going to this frat house around 1AM to hang out with this other guy.

What I mean it's this; I have seen it all with her. Even reading her facebook hurt, but it doesn't truly hurt because pretty much everything I will see I already know. I have seen them. I know she f*cked the new guy and in the room next to mine when I was there sleeping. The new boy stood up to me, one of the exes showed up in the apartment to spend the weekend with her. Maybe they even had a 3some with the bf. Who knows.

So....I have pretty much seen it all. I think I had the much amazing break up experience ever. I learned a lot about myself, and relationships. I really believe I'm a new better man, and I just need to get over this one.

[confusius]

I developed nothing but hatred towards her, Which has helped me get over her so much .

I wish I could say the same. Even with everything that happened I can't bring myself to hate her. One person hates her though. My sister lol. My sister knows everything and she doesn't understand why I still have feelings for her. I just do and I can't explain why.

[flynhayn]

Jesus H, man..... that's a lot to get thrown at you. I've had similar experiences but nothing that literally happened right in front of me.

Good news is, there is no effing doubt that this chick is worthless and not deserving of your attention from this point on. I know you can't help thinking about her right now, which is natural, but that's as far as it should get. That girl is twisted!

I guarantee she'll realize what a mindless slut she's being right now and hate herself for it. The best revenge you can get on her is to live your life and better yourself while she does the exact opposite. Once she notices, rub it in her face.... then ignore her for good.

[OmnicronPercei8]

I agree. If you were good to her in the relationship she's going to grow up and regret the cold-hearted decisions she's made along the way. Unless she's sociopathic and in that case you don't want anything to do whit her anyway.

As far as the random quote thing on FB, I was dating a girl at the end of last summer. I think she wanted more but it was just a sex thing to me and I was getting a little bored of the whole situation. I was getting ready to break it off in the following few weeks but I ended up posting a quote that I saw somewhere on my FB wall which didn't relate at all to her or our sexual trysts. I've seen it around on here as someone's signature and it read: “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option”. She thought that truer words had never been spoken and it was advice from myself to her and ended up breaking it off with me and asking me never to contact her again. We were NC the whole way and I've never looked back with regret.

[confusius]

Well, I'm not perfect. I had my moments but I don't think it was anything that couldn't be fix. Her insecurity and uncertainty got on the way. The relationship was great except the moment she would tell me she went to the movie with this ex, and went for a drink and a walk in the park with that ex, or being skyping with the other ex (and they would tell her how much they love her). I couldn't handle it well. That's my part in the failed relationship. I still don't think I deserved all of this but what it's done it's done. There's no going back. She surely overdone the whole thing. I wish I could just play a movie so you guys could see what I'm talking about.

Everyone tells me she will see her mistakes one day. I really hope she does. Regardless I'm here to move on and start fresh.

[OmnicronPercei8]

Same boat I'm in my friend. I feel completely discarded and replaced by the love of my life. At this point, I wish she'd realize her "mistake" and come back to me saying we can overcome all our issues and obstacles, but it isn't going to happen. If it did, I would have to weigh some heavy thought on putting my heart back out there again.

In the future when I am over her, I won't wish that any longer as it'll just open up old woulds for us both and I don't know if once I'm done with the hurt and pain I would ever allow myself to be subjugated to it with her again. Idk because it's a devil you know is better than the devil you don't kind of deal, but the devil I know already hurt me and the devil I don't hasn't had any chance to! No in the future when I've moved on in heart and mind I'll only wish that she's happy out there with someone and won't look back as hopefully I'll be in my own happy relationship anyway.