Please take a look.

[vampiress]

Mathias is right. Children in a loveless home learn all the wrong things about relationships. My sister and I used to fantasize that our parents would divorce, and we could go live with our dad. I wish it'd happened... maybe it wouldn't have taken me until I was 40 to learn how to have a good relationship.

I don't know the first thing about having a good relationship and I truly blame it on our loveless home atmosphere. But I believe that I would've had more issues if my parents were divorced.... I can still taste the horror I felt when my dad left us for a couple of weeks.
I wouldn't wanna deal with a step dad or a step mom.
Thinking about it now!? I don't know...

[Wakeup]

I don't get it. When my father was willing to leave, I was 7 and my brother was 10 (our baby sister was only 1) I clearly remember us crying and begging him not to go. Mom even told us to lock the door and hide his keys... Why have I felt such panic when he left?

I think maybe because your mother made you panic with the "lock the door and hide his keys" instead of sitting you down and telling you that you would be just as loved but her and your dad wouldn't be living in the same home but, you would be seeing him regularily. Unless of course he was just going to disappear (abandon) you outright, in which case I can see why you panicked.

Anyway, I agree with Mathias, It's not fair to your children to teach them crappy relationship interaction so that they think that that is how a relationship is suppose to function.

[Way2Roux]

It looks like some people are saying give your marriage a chance

Others are saying a split is at hand

Both could be right, but you need to pick one. If you aren't in love, you should think about a divorce, and take things SLOW with anyone new. If you think love still has a chance, you need to work at it (hard). You aren't a bad person and you're not a cheater. If anyone on here thinks otherwise, they have their own issues

[Kyrina]

OP you need to get your head out of the clouds with this other guy, and then decide which position you want, your not doing your child or yourself any good or even thinking clearly with this other guy on the scene.If you respect yourself and the years you dedicated to your marriage you at least should allow a clean untainted approach of up arsing your daughters life and leaving her dad.There was you and your husband deciding to have the child.Now pay your child respect due and decide wether you and your husband will split without someone else playing pussy foot under the table and giving you possible false hope of happiness.That my opinion and i believe allowing this other guy to sway you is a selfish act on your part.


If you and hubby decide to split then its a decision you both came to and didnt involve a guy who has nothing to lose

[vampiress]

I think maybe because your mother made you panic with the "lock the door and hide his keys" instead of sitting you down and telling you that you would be just as loved but her and your dad wouldn't be living in the same home but, you would be seeing him regularily. Unless of course he was just going to disappear (abandon) you outright, in which case I can see why you panicked.

Bringing back bitter childhood memories. I wouldn't expect her to act likewise, having to deal with 3 kinds the youngest of them was only 1 year old with Down Syndrome...