lover wants to be friend

**shh!** · 15-06-05, 12:00 AM

Yes. Sorry.

**whaywardj** · 15-06-05, 01:12 AM

Originally Posted by shh!

Yes. Sorry.

Hey. Nothin' to be sorry about. It's you. There are whole other dimensions of experience out there to enjoy should you ever change your mind, though.

**shh!** · 15-06-05, 01:50 AM

Originally Posted by whaywardj

There are whole other dimensions of experience out there to enjoy should you ever change your mind, though.

Sounds kinky.

(I wasn't really all that sorry, though. I am incorrigible.)

**Asip4u** · 15-06-05, 02:10 AM

Originally Posted by shh!

If you are trying to to act as a "friend" to someone you are in love with that doesn't return your love, it is either because you are trying to manipulate the situation or you are a doormat, but I will continue to overlook your lapse of judgement 'cause you are amusing.

I totally agree with this...Happened to me once and it won't happen again...The pain is just too much. I rather go out and enjoy my life instead of go on pretending that things are ok.

Now, as for the question above...I really don't think you guys are in love, it's just so early. I'd take things slow with her and in time you will know whether the feelings are strong enough to move on to the next level. Some people fall out of love very quickly so keep that in mind and continue to pursue this woman without having such strong attachment.

**whaywardj** · 15-06-05, 02:45 AM

Originally Posted by shh!

Sounds kinky.

(I wasn't really all that sorry, though. I am incorrigible.)

It is. That's why I always carry a set of crutches and a walker in the trunk of my car.

**misombra** · 15-06-05, 03:37 AM

or kleenex and prozac from putting yourself through all that torture. who the hell hangs out with a person that doesn't love you but you love them? that would suck.

**prelude01** · 15-06-05, 03:38 AM

I say run for the hills this one could be a willey one!!!!

**shh!** · 15-06-05, 03:51 AM

Originally Posted by whaywardj

It is. That's why I always carry a set of crutches and a walker in the trunk of my car.

Could be a little TOO kinky for me! What, do you intend to inflict injury of some sort?

**shh!** · 15-06-05, 03:52 AM

Originally Posted by misombra

or kleenex and prozac from putting yourself through all that torture. who the hell hangs out with a person that doesn't love you but you love them? that would suck.

Only people who want to manipulate the situation or who are doormats, like I said!

**misombra** · 15-06-05, 04:05 AM

or masochistic.

**shh!** · 15-06-05, 04:10 AM

Ahh, an option I had not considered! Maybe this is what whaywardj was alluding to. Damn, I sure am sheltered, aren't I?

**equivo** · 15-06-05, 05:56 AM

is it not possible to hang out with someone because you enjoy spending time with them? regardless of whether you love them or not. i mean you spend time with friends because you enjoy it (i assume) so..

just my 2c, never been properly in love so i wouldn't know

**shh!** · 15-06-05, 06:32 AM

Originally Posted by equivo

is it not possible to hang out with someone because you enjoy spending time with them? regardless of whether you love them or not. i mean you spend time with friends because you enjoy it (i assume) so..

just my 2c, never been properly in love so i wouldn't know

No. Not if you love them (romantically) and they know about it. Unless you are a doormat, manipulative or a masochist.

**Cybog** · 15-06-05, 08:19 AM

I agree with shh! this time

Men and women are not hardwired to be "Just friends" when there is a party involved who has romantic (love) feelings for the other. It never works out well. The loving party becomes overly obsessive, from which there is never any return without pain.

**Only-virgins** · 15-06-05, 03:38 PM

Wow, I guess that crap doesnt end at high school.

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