How often do you pay, and under what circumstances?

[fearoflove]

Why any guy would pay for a woman is beyond me. Sure, I'll pay one night. Then she pays the next night.

In the early stages, I would never ask a woman on a date that is expensive - or even costs anything. An example of a first date for me is I'll invite her to come to a street fair with me. Doesn't cost a thing.

Women get pissed when guys expect sex early on. As a guy, I, in turn, refuse to cater to a woman's expectations in the beginning. Aside from being a decent human being, of course.

May I ask if you are single?

[searock]

I always feel very awkward having someone pay for me, especially if I feel uncomfortable around them on the date as well. So, I'll try to make it even- the guy pays a date, I pay a date, etc etc... I've actually started seeing a guy over the past two weeks or so... And I feel comfortable around him enough to be close to him like that and not feel awkward when it's his turn to pay.

It's the same way for me :-).

[searock]

Women get pissed when guys expect sex early on. As a guy, I, in turn, refuse to cater to a woman's expectations in the beginning.

I don't expect to be paid for when I go out with a guy. I also don't think the guy expects to have sex before we get to feel comfortable with each other, as I don't expect it until then. I hope you realize that not all women and not all men are like you describe.

Also, it's pretty sad that you would take such a confrontational stance on the issue. Dating is supposed to be fun and between "partners" (i.e. two persons who work for the same team), not a competition over who gets what expectation satisfied.

[Starnique]

It doesn't feel awkward for me at all. It's part of the norm for me but if a guy doesn't offer, then that is very abnormal to me. I doubt i'd go out with him again. He's cheap or broke neither of which I want. Now once we are dating regularly then we can be flexible sometimes as I said before but for him not to offer and he's trying to get to know me...bad impression, don't want those problems. First and last date, if thats what you want to call it.

[HDBadger]

I also don't think the guy expects to have sex before we get to feel comfortable with each other

Haaaaaaahahahahaha.

[searock]

Haaaaaaahahahahaha.

Not the guys I go out with, I assure you.

[lalalita]

I'm with Starnique on this one. I like when a man pays for dates, at least in the beginning. I would be offended if I were asked out on a date, and the man didn't even make an attempt to pay. I like men with old school values. After the first few dates, I don't have a problem paying for myself or treating him occasionally. It makes me uncomfortable if a man tries to pay for other things, though - unless we're in a long term relationship.