Guy's behavior puzzling me - input please :)

[DianaS]

Thanks, Ginger. That makes sense. No matter his reasons, I feel silly and foolish for not staying the course and just not taking him seriously like I did for so long in the past. My mistake.

[HeartIsAching]

Yes, but those choices were made by me as a result of HIS actions and encouragement. But yes, it always takes two. As far as the moaning over it, most women moan over it, no matter how big or small the affair, and even when we end it. It's just something that women do, LOL.

Yeah, but Jffs24 makes a good point - stop blaming him for your actions. YOU chose to accept his attempts to re-establish contact. Sucks that he pestered you until you did, but you didn't have to fall for it.

[DianaS]

Yes HeartIsAching but I did respond with "it takes two," meaning I take my share of the blame. And YES it sucks, very, very much.

It's called being dishonest, and a liar.

I could easily come on to lots of men leading them to believe I was into them for more than a year, available, and willing to relocate yet deep down inside I was lying all along for some self-serving reason.

I can't take responsibility for that, and I won't. Because I did not do that to anybody - HE DID. He even tried to say similar things when I was ending it, doing the same thing again to try and keep his hooks in me, but this time, I didn't fall for it.

[smackie9]

You can poke a stick at it till the cows come home, and still never really know his motives were for his actions.....it's futile. Just be glad you got out of it, learned a lesson or two and now it's time to put this in the past..... move on.

[HeartIsAching]

Yes HeartIsAching but I did respond with "it takes two," meaning I take my share of the blame. And YES it sucks, very, very much.

It's called being dishonest, and a liar.

I could easily come on to lots of men leading them to believe I was into them for more than a year, available, and willing to relocate yet deep down inside I was lying all along for some self-serving reason.

I can't take responsibility for that, and I won't. Because I did not do that to anybody - HE DID. He even tried to say similar things when I was ending it, doing the same thing again to try and keep his hooks in me, but this time, I didn't fall for it.

But didn't you have prior behavior to base your reaction to him on?

You got fooled - AGAIN.