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carpflounder
Its ok, and I apologize to you for being curt with you.
Look Miss, I dont know everything about your living/cultural circumstances and I'm sure that you feel under a great deal of pressure to stay with this guy. I'm sure there is nothing I can say that will suade you into leaving him. It is my hope that you do leave this guy someday, so that you dont grow old taking this abuse.
About the whole threesome thing..if you want to please him...heres my take.
If you tell someone you are going to do something, then do it. Its not like you didn't say you would. Lying angers most people.
He is being selfish; it is up to you who you sleep with. Try approaching him with some friends of yours that you are attracted to and see how he feels about them.
Thanks! that makes me feel better because I actually fealt quite like an idiot i did not come to this site to piss people off, im actually not like that..
Yes I am in a great deal of pressure and stress...not just because he want to be with an other women but he also nag me about what happend with the other guy asking me questions for the pass 3 years about it.. even when we have sex he ask me to talk to him dirty about what we did.. and it completely turn me off.. because to me it a big mistake that I did and I try to deal with this.. but he always bring this back... he told me that it turn him on to heard it.. a few time I told him but then he goes.. really no I know that you did more then that.. and I get angry and tell him to stop...but then a few days after he goes again with those dam questions...
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Yes I know that if I told him that I would do it, I should and I want to to make him happy but I am very sceard that he get attach to the person who will be with us, but I guess I can't control that.. its all in his power
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Yes that a good idea to approach him with my friend...but the problem is that he actually want after to keep a good relationship with them so that he can have again and that bring fear to me.. I told him that I rather do it with a compleete starnger and use protection I would feel more secure that way, but that not good enough for him.. he told me that when we were with the male we keep him as a friend and then I told him that, this was his idea to do this not me, and I also told him that see what happen when people do that sometime it backfire in your face that why I would rather do it that way...
what do you think.. is this too much to ask