Originally Posted by
BackUpOrGetStng
"I have told her before on several occasions that I'm going to have to have sex with other people if she continues to never want sex. "
That sounds like pretty straightforward warning, in no uncertain terms to me. What more do you want him to do, introduce them?
How is she not keeping it a secret, when she won't even tell him why?
No! This would be straight forward. "I have arranged to have sex with a woman and I will begining our sessions this Tuesday Evening because you refuse to have sex with me." That would be straight forward and perhaps open up the dialogue. OP is not a very good communicator by the sounds of things. What you've bolded is a warning. Telling him why she won't have sex with him? Perhaps she doesn't know herself if it's something buried???
Who knows, perhaps Op's wife would be fine with keeping him as her lifemate while he got his sexual release else where? He needs to tell her and give her the choice. To stay with him while he gets his nut else where or leave him so he's free to do whoever. He's taking that choice away from her and thats what makes him so vile.
There should be a clause in every relationship "contract" that reads: "If we stop having each other sexually, then either of us can find our jollies elsewhere." Somenthing tells me Op would still cheat even when he didn't have to because like many, many men. theres' still a double standard where they want to do it but want to hide it because they don't want their wives/girlfriends to be able to have the same excitement.
What's strange about this whole thing is more times than not, when a woman leaves one relationship where she was not sexually responsive, she usually goes into the next one horny as hell.
Last edited by Wakeup; 15-10-11 at 11:51 PM.
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