Why are girls so confusing???

[Junsui]

I found this funny; I pictured a beer vendor type guy walking around yelling, "Get your free cuddles here! Warm free cuddles, here!"

lol awwww free cuddles!

[Tone]

Then just back off, tell her you wanna be with her, but you understand her concerns, back off give her space, and tell her when she figures out what she wants to do, to come see you.

This is how I'd do it, for what it's worth.

[Fajemeister]

Then just back off, tell her you wanna be with her, but you understand her concerns, back off give her space, and tell her when she figures out what she wants to do, to come see you.

This is how I'd do it, for what it's worth.

Thats basically what I'm doing. She told me she would call me when she gets home cause she wants to talk. I'm not going to go calling her, even if she doesn't call today. I'll let her call me when she's ready. All I know is that we both told eachother before were both confused and that we should just talk it out. She kinda agreed, so I'm sure she'll call eventually.

[Mish]

Thats basically what I'm doing. She told me she would call me when she gets home cause she wants to talk. I'm not going to go calling her, even if she doesn't call today. I'll let her call me when she's ready. All I know is that we both told eachother before were both confused and that we should just talk it out. She kinda agreed, so I'm sure she'll call eventually.

I don't think you are confused, I think you know exactly what you want. She doesn't. You need to explain to her that until she knows what she wants you really should not spend any time together. If you don't put some distance between the two of you while she makes up her mind, I think this thing between the two of you is gonna get really ugly...

[Tone]

Just don't be a pansy and let her do whatever she wants, don't let her have her way. Cause then you get played. She needs to know if she wants to be flirtsy mirtsy with you and kissy wissy and cuddle wuddle - then she has to be YOUR GIRL. Otherwise if she can have all that while not havin to have you as her b/f, then that means she can do w/e she wants with any other guy.

Not sayin this is how it's goin to be, or that's her intentions, just sayin that either way - you need to take some control here.

And the only reason I say all this is cause I'VE BEEN THERE - yes ladies and gentlemen, believe it or not - TONE was once a PANSY in his younger years... luckily he has learned many many things since then!

[Rosebud]

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See that yelllow stuff on your head? It's hair. blonde hair.

Leafing thru a book and looking at the neat pictures is not considered reading.

Lloyd your wrong! Just admit it!

I'm a smart blonde and you know it....

[Junsui]

flirtsy mirtsy with you and kissy wissy and cuddle wuddle -

hehehehe

[Fajemeister]

I know I need to take control, but I don't want to do it in a forcefull way, where she will hate me for it. I wish it would be a mutual thing. Well the first thing I want to do is get a time where the two of us can talk. I just don't want to come off as an *******. I mean it's obvious she likes me, she just doesn't know what to do. I mean why would she even kiss me when she isn't a fan of kissing and has no interest? She deff has an interest if she's willing to do somethng she doesn't really like doing. Well I have a question, do you think this relationship is going to wind up taking steps backwards?

She's really driving me crazy, I mean she just sent me a txt message 5 minutes ago telling me she's going to try weed cause she needs it. I mean I'm concerned about that cause she has always said she doesn't want to try it and she thinks smoking is disgusting. Well she said she's going to do it so I told her make sure she hits it hard and then inhales oxygen and holds it for as longas she can. I'm sure she'll enjoy that for her first time lol.

I just don't know what to do. I just want to sit down and talk. I want her to actually think about all the shit thats going on.

[Bluevetteracer]

If you want to save this, take a chill pill, and follow some of the advice on here and avoid your temptations to try and reason with her over talking, it is to soon.

Avoid her for a few days, if she calls, just say you are busy, you have to run, be nice about it though, just be frank, to the point and get off the phone as soon as you can.

Secondly, back off, you don't want to come off as a clingy desperate weirdo.
It sounds backwards, but telling a women you love her, early on freaks them out.

Let her come back to you, it may take some time, but if she comes back to you, she will have done it on her own, not out of some sympathy plight you made.

[Lloyd95]

I'm a smart blonde and you know it....

Oxymoron (sp?)

[Fajemeister]

Why is it bad if I tell her we need to get together and talk about this whole thing. It's true that we do need to talk about it. But at the same time I really just want it to be over. She said she's going to call me back tonight, so if she calls, I should answer and just say I can't talk I'm busy? And keep doing that to her for a few days?

[Mish]

I don't think you are confused, I think you know exactly what you want. She doesn't. You need to explain to her that until she knows what she wants you really should not spend any time together. If you don't put some distance between the two of you while she makes up her mind, I think this thing between the two of you is gonna get really ugly...

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[Fajemeister]

I don't think you are confused, I think you know exactly what you want. She doesn't. You need to explain to her that until she knows what she wants you really should not spend any time together. If you don't put some distance between the two of you while she makes up her mind, I think this thing between the two of you is gonna get really ugly...

I don't know if I really want to do that. The thing is, I don't think I really want a serious relationship. I don't want to take a chance and **** up our whole work relationship and friendship. What I want is just a normal relationship where were together and like eachother but I'm not looking to marry the girl. I just want to go slow and get to know her more. I still feel like she isn't being 100% open and she acts differently with me than she normally does. Thats why I really just want to sit down and talk it out. But should I really space it out? I mean, she's deff going to feel like I'm avoiding her if I tell her I'm busy and can't talk.

[Bluevetteracer]

I don't know if I really want to do that. The thing is, I don't think I really want a serious relationship. I don't want to take a chance and **** up our whole work relationship and friendship. What I want is just a normal relationship where were together and like eachother but I'm not looking to marry the girl. I just want to go slow and get to know her more. I still feel like she isn't being 100% open and she acts differently with me than she normally does. Thats why I really just want to sit down and talk it out. But should I really space it out? I mean, she's deff going to feel like I'm avoiding her if I tell her I'm busy and can't talk.

Listen to reason here, and it is not you. Trust us. BACK OFF, PLAY HARD TO GET, GIVE HER THE SPACE, MAKE HER COME BACK TO YOU. But don't act like this is the plan, our you will be outed. Hold composure, and be tasteful and always put good manners up front.

TRUST US MY FRIEND.

You are destroying this and you don't realize it. You are dealing with this like a man would, by being rational, logical, and trying to reason with her. IT WON'T WORK.

Consult us here before you make any moves.

[Bluevetteracer]

Why is it bad if I tell her we need to get together and talk about this whole thing. It's true that we do need to talk about it. But at the same time I really just want it to be over. She said she's going to call me back tonight, so if she calls, I should answer and just say I can't talk I'm busy? And keep doing that to her for a few days?

Because that would be logical.

And this is not logical; it is the antithesis of logic. This is jungle law.