That's a good attempt.. The entire post really.. and maybe that really is the case for you..
But the argument falls apart on one vital point.. What do you "wear" when you go out clubbing..
See.. maybe your clothes-to-skin ratio is around 8:2.. let's say you actually wear pants or a long skirt and comfortable shoes.. let's say when you're dressing up, you're not thinking "that looks good/cute".. but instead thinking "this is comfortable to go out dancing in".. that's fine.. but once you start crossing the line of 6:4.. you're not there to dance.. don't kid yourself..
Also, notice something interesting about your post.. the idea you have of yourself as the prize.. Painting this picture for yourself where all you're doing is going out to dance, but have these guys come after you, and you will "reject" them.. and that they need to kid themselves to cope with rejection.. (this is classic female-ego)
News-Flash.. this is how guys cope with rejection: "She rejected me".. in fact, it's easier to cope this way than to make some bullsh*t excuse/rationalization.. the effort alone in trying to manipulate the reality of the situation would be more painful.. it's just easier to accept what's happened.. "She rejected me".. AFTER that's been accepted.. there are a couple of "why" questions thrown in.. "I came on too fast, that thing I said wasn't really that funny, yeah, that was a pretty boring story, fcuk, oh well, at least I know for next time".. but in clubs, it's easy.. she has two reasons to "reject".. (1) the music is too loud, you don't know eachother, you can't talk, she's already comming in with the mindset that guys are here to pick me up "which is true, which is why I don't prefer clubs".. (2) She's there to get male attention, validate her ego, and deny the whole thing to herself by convincing herself and trying to convince others that she's just there to dance.. (That sounds like a guy saying.. "No, I wasn't looking at her breasts, I was just noticing how her pink bra really brings out the color of her eyes")
I know from your previous posts, that you're not the type of girl who goes to clubs, gets dressed (down), just to get male attention, and ego-validation from "rejecting" guys.. I know that Blue.. Also, the pictures in the gallery help aswell.. But let's not kid ourselves in an effort to try and defend female-kind here.. Go into a popular club, find me girls without ("fcuk me" boots/heals, tight low-cut jeans, thongs on display, super-mini-skirts, tight shirts ending just below the breasts, push-up bras, and accessories to light her up like a Christmas tree)..
The argument is, "just going out to dance and have fun, not going out for male attention"
- But..., I haven't taken any formal dance classes
- But..., I will spend over an hour to get ready
- But..., I am more concerned about what looks good as opposed to what's comfortable & practical to dance in
- But..., I would much rather go to a crowded place to dance in than a less crowded place to dance (perhaps a dance studio or dance classes, excluding classical dance)
- But..., I don't know what it is, but there's something about going to a place where there are guys, and dancing, that makes it more fun, and it's not the same, not as fun, to go dancing in a less crowded place to just dance
- So i'm not really going out to "just dance".. that's really a means to an end.. and the end is the "fun".. which is heavily dependent on the amount of male attention I get.. So this whole time.. I thought.. but I was really.. oh my..
I'm not about to start making a cheap argument and throwing in emotional mumbo-jumbo like some users.. Maybe go so low as to call these women cheap/immature/childish/classless/etc.. and to call you mature/wise/classy/etc.. but that's a cheap effort to try and manipulate you emotionally through contrast.. And it's also not needed, because the logic and reality of the situation is all set out
I'm also not saying that you fit into that category.. My friend Maria always calls me out to "just go dance".. even though I can't dance, nor can she.. and when she's done getting/giving numbers, she gets an other urge to "just go get a drink" (because the club's alcohol is somehow different from the alcohol they serve at Gidney's, with the cute bartender she likes).. when I sh*t-called her on it, her excuse/rationalization of it was "it's not the same, it's loud here, there are so many people, I just don't want to be in the same place when i'm calling it a night, I just want to relax and go somewhere else".. Eventually, through more sh*t-calling, she quickly realized that she was full of it.. first, she would admit it to herself.., once I saw that, I backed off, gave her the space she needed, and she eventually came clean, laughed about it, and told me why she "really" wanted to "just go get a drink" at Gidney's..