So much is wrong with this picture. I'm reading the bits and pieces because there's so much information and posts in here. And some bad advice given, in my opinion.
You sound friend zoned. Make your intentions clear, dont agree to be friends with a woman you want to date, that's a phony false friendships. Men in those situations rarely get anywhere. They hold off hoping she will see how great of a guy he is, while she sleeps with other dudes and you wait at her Beck and call. It's unattractive.
You're planning a must kiss situation. You're not even on a date with her.
What I would do, ask her on a date, if she rejects, alright let me know if you change your mind but I can't continue to be "just your friend". Cheers
And then I would walk away. She knows I'm interested in romance, not friendship.
She will contact me if she changes her mind, and if she doesn't, no worries, I'll be moving on with my life dating new women.