Thoughts on taking bastard boyfriend back?

[IndiReloaded]

It's low self esteem Indi. I know people like this. They implant in their heads this ridiculous idea that they will never be able to find something better than target x because of their perceived low value thus their only choice (and purpose in life) is to pursue x in any way possible. They will take as much punishment and humiliation as x is willing to throw at them without any boundaries or internal standards until such point in time where x gets tired of walking all over them and leaves of own accord for something perceived as better leaving their partner completely oblivious as to why this has happened.

I think I expect ppl to be more rational than they actually are.

To the OP: in this case, if you won't leave him, at least berate him. Yell at him for being a turd. Be a bitch. Since he'll still leave you, at least you'll feel better for getting some of your own back before he goes.

[ShortieCutie]

Wow, I still read these and I have to say that, yes, I took him back. I mean I think I just didn't effectively communicate the GOOD aspects of the relationship in my initial post- I really truly do love him, I always have and I always will - and he makes me really happy. Yes he has done some hurtful things but I really think he has grown a lot over the last few years and that he is ready for a serious relationship now. I think we will be spending the rest of our lives together.

[IndiReloaded]

Hope it all works out for you, hun. Good luck.

[Gigabitch]

I think we will be spending the rest of our lives together.

I don't think that will be as long as you might hope. This guy is going to drive you to suicide when you finally wake up to how he treats you.

One last word: sterilization. Look into it.

[Junket]

Hooray!

Get that, I verbally abused her, and she still took my advice.

Doesn't that tell you somethin'?

[Mish]

Alrite Cutie. When in the future you come back asking why he is behaving the way he does and how you love him, but don't understand how he can do the things he does, I promise I won't give you a hard time about this. Try it out. Maybe knowing is not enough, maybe it has to be experienced.

[bluesummer]

Well, I wish you luck. You will need it.

Like I said, good things in your relationship do not cancel out the bad, hurtful things. A man who truly loves you would never have done any of these things to you in the first place. I'm so sorry you're going to have to learn this the hard way. Just don't say you weren't warned. He WILL hurt you again.

Like I said before, it doesn't matter how much you love HIM - that's not going to make him love YOU the way you deserve. And I'm sorry, but you're not happy, however much you want to lie to yourself and say you are. If you were, you wouldn't be questioning whether or not you should be with him and referring to him as a 'bastard'.

I was in your situation, my dear. I thought like you did. I was wrong. He would try and improve himself, and everything would be good for a few months, then he'd be back at it again. It's an ongoing cycle. And you're being sucked right into it.

[Gigabitch]

Bluesummer's ex should be hit by a dump truck.

[bluesummer]

I second Giga's post.

Ha ha actually no....I don't wish badly on anyone. He's in enough misery knowing he lost the best thing he'll ever have.

[Junket]

I second Giga's post.

Ha ha actually no....I don't wish badly on anyone. He's in enough misery knowing he lost the best thing he'll ever have.

Do ya think he f*cks other girls while thinking of you?

[bluesummer]

Ew, I hope not. That would be freakin odd.

[Gribble]

Frasbee, I want you to know that when I'm screwing a chick from behind you're the one I think about.

[Junket]

Frasbee, I want you to know that when I'm screwing a chick from behind you're the one I think about.

Oh, come on dude!








I already knew that.

[Illusional]

Do ya think he f*cks other girls while thinking of you?

i used to do this before. when i had casual sex with my ex, i remember being drunk and thinking it were some other girl. haha.

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