I cant get laid!!

[the_robot]

There's a thread here about how long would a male stay with a female without sex, and I was wondering why no one started a thread like that but switching sexes... This thread is making me want to start it!

[qwertz]

The answer being 14 days

[TXChris]

Can he still get an erection? Maybe there is some ED. Tell him how you feel. What is going to do cut you off sexually?

[Mish]

He's gone off sex, he just wants to cuddle and talk and jeeezus christ i just want him to screw me, if i wanted to cuddle i would buy a teddy and if i wanted to talk i would call a friend!!!!

I dont even know why, dont get me wrong, i like the guy on all levels, we were/are having fun, taking things as they come-nothing too heavy or serious. He seems more keen in every way apart from the sex side..its so frustrating, i tried to initiate 3 times now and his response is 'im not in the mood' ..just now he turned down a bj.

I hardly call wanting sex at least once a day OTT.

Yeh, that looks very familiar to me. In one of my relationships (about 6 years back) I was that guy (and that would make you my ex I had at the time). Yeh, I gave exactly the same excuses and I rejected a lot of her advances. Why? There's a very simple explanation. Nothing to do with her not looking attarctive or even pressure from work. It was: Incompatible sex drives. The explanation can be a lot more detailed, but in summary that's pretty much it. Incompatible sex drives creates all kinds of problems, first it creates a sense of unfairness where one party feels pressured (an instant turn off for a guy) and the other party feels sexually starved and rejected (this is a pressure cooker, a very bad place to be in).

But what needs to be recognised is that neither you nor him are to blame if this is the real problem. Either you need to have a rational discussion (no blaming) and establish some sort of schedule which works for both of you or ultimately depart.

[qwertz]

Well, he seems to have his libido back. Its actually annoying, he is being a sex pest and getting irritated that im not putting out. Revenge is sweet.

[Mish]

Yeh, my ex tried the revenge thing as well. It didn't work and only created mutual resentment.

[qwertz]

I'm not doing it for revenge- i have broken ribs, there is no way he is getting any action!!

[Mish]

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that qwerty. How did it happen? Were you in an accident? Hope you get better soon!