Eh. I still don't think that would the case with this particular girl, but I suppose whether or not that's relevant anymore is up for debate.
Well, that doesn't make dating (or socializing, in general) sound very enjoyable, then... Like I said, I just want to find someone I connect with, and have a good time with that person. I don't want to have to think about "moves", or "techniques", or "playing the game". Just doesn't seem very "organic", to me.
The thing is, though, I haven't even been able to get that far. I have to find someone that I actually want to date (and wants to date me) first. And therein lies the problem. Like I said, I believe the amount of girls I actually connect with in that way is very small, and they're very difficult to find. Admittedly, I do need to "get out" more, and I'm trying to work on that (but I haven't been able to do it yet), but even then, I don't know how to find girls. I have no interest in doing "cold approaches" because I have no interest in going out with people I don't know or don't know very well. Believe it or not, I don't know if I'm attracted to a girl in that way until I've befriended her to some extent, and once I decided I'm attracted, I already have "feelings", which makes things tougher when they don't work out.
So, I just don't know where that leaves me.
It doesn't help that I still have lingering thoughts and feelings for this girl, and they probably won't go away completely until we're no longer in each others lives in any capacity, and who knows how long that could take.