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    Quote Originally Posted by YoungCosmo View Post
    See, it's lies like this that has most convinced you're just some gay kid.
    What lies?
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    Quote Originally Posted by fearoflove View Post
    I kissed many men but I haven't caught anything. I don't feel like I am being disingenuous. If I don't feel anything for him, I won't go on another date. If one of them wanted to be more serious or straight out ask if I am dating other men, I don't lie about it.
    All you do is brag about dating a million guys. Hardly sounds like you have any actual intention of doing any real dating. Instead, it sounds more like you're proliferating an impressive meal ticket collection. (assuming you're not a gay kid)
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    Quote Originally Posted by YoungCosmo View Post
    All you do is brag about dating a million guys. Hardly sounds like you have any actual intention of doing any real dating. Instead, it sounds more like you're proliferating an impressive meal ticket collection. (assuming you're not a gay kid)
    I am doing "real dating". I am casting a wide net and filtering out all the guys I don't like. I have found the best guys (well educated, gentlemen, hot guys) this way. Although, getting taken out on a date is really nice and I feel no shame about it.
    A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything

    She uses logic and manages her emotions

    She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them

    She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions

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    Good for you....you are not committed to anyone if you are just going out on dates. I did the same thing.....everyone gets in such a tizzy about dating multiple people.

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    I don't think her "mutiple dating" is her problem. Its falling for all of them and then trying convince us that it's them that are falling for her that's the problem. Did you see her closed thread about just that?

    Anyway OT: Don't believe everything a guy says to you. His actions are where the truth will be told. He should probably watch your's as well fearoflove.
    Last edited by Wakeup; 08-09-13 at 07:19 AM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wakeup View Post
    I don't think her "mutiple dating" is her problem. Its falling for all of them and then trying convince us that it's them that are falling for her that's the problem. Did you see her closed thread about just that?

    Anyway OT: Don't believe everything a guy says to you. His actions are where the truth will be told. He should probably watch your's as well fearoflove.
    Yea, I was sceptical when I heard those words. It was probably just initial enthusiasm.

    And I don't fall for every one of them. But it does happen occasionally when I see someone I like.
    A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything

    She uses logic and manages her emotions

    She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them

    She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions

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    Quote Originally Posted by fearoflove View Post
    Yea, I was sceptical when I heard those words. It was probably just initial enthusiasm.

    And I don't fall for every one of them. But it does happen occasionally when I see someone I like.
    Do you ask for exclusivity once you start seeing someone you like?
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    A few is fine. 30-40 men..that's developing a harem. Pretty damn wrong. What's worse is, you use them to get meals and you don't even put out. So wrong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wakeup View Post
    Do you ask for exclusivity once you start seeing someone you like?
    Why would she? That jeopardizes her free handouts...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wakeup View Post
    Do you ask for exclusivity once you start seeing someone you like?
    If I have strong feelings for him and I know it is mutual, then I desire exclusivity. But I only know if its mutual if he brings it up, right? I don't want to be in the position of asking when the other person don't feel the same because it will turn them off. It happened to me. I asked for it too soon and I ended up scaring the guy away.
    A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything

    She uses logic and manages her emotions

    She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them

    She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions

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    Listen, my dear. If you've already blown a guy and he won't give you exclusivity, then you didn't scare him away. You just weeded him out. Guys don't scare that easy if they are actually interested in the first place. Even the one's that just want sex will back away if they think you are falling for them, but they'll come back for more sex (oral is sex) later when you've cooled your jets. It would be dumb of you to accept him back without him committing to you. Thats if you actually want to be in something committed that is.
    Last edited by Wakeup; 08-09-13 at 07:42 AM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by YoungCosmo View Post
    A few is fine. 30-40 men..that's developing a harem. Pretty damn wrong. What's worse is, you use them to get meals and you don't even put out. So wrong.
    What? I haven't dated 30-40 men. Maybe like 15-25 in my past 24 years. And only recently, have I dated multiple men at once. And it is usually just a few at a time. 3 days ago, I have made the decision to cut it down to two guys I really like because I am going to busy with school. I don't use them to get meals. That isn't my objective at all. I date with the intention of ending up with a serious partner in a monogamous relationship.
    A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything

    She uses logic and manages her emotions

    She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them

    She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wakeup View Post
    Listen, my dear. If you've already blown a guy and he won't give you exclusivity, then you didn't scare him away. You just weeded him out. Guys don't scare that easy if they are actually interested in the first place. Even the one's that just want sex will back away if they think you are falling for them, but they'll come back for more sex (oral is sex) later when you've cooled your jets. It would be dumb of you to accept him back without him committing to you. Thats if you actually want to be in something committed that is.
    That one guy who I have blown without commitment first was something I screwed up. I think both of us screwed up. But it was done and it was all for the best. I did really like that guy at that moment in time but there was too much mind games (I think from both ends) and that kept us from being in an exclusive relationship. He has mentioned several times that he didn't like me dating other guys and he won't date me if I am dating others. But at the same time, he was giving me mixed messages (that he isn't ready to be a boyfriend). That "relationship" was just really messed up. But I moved on from it and found better guys.
    A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything

    She uses logic and manages her emotions

    She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them

    She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions

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    Yea, you're not in a very good state of mind/maturity to be in anything committed (even though you say that's what you want). Carry on and play safe.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wakeup View Post
    Yea, you're not in a very good state of mind/maturity to be in anything committed (even though you say that's what you want). Carry on and play safe.
    It wasn't really a matter of maturity/good state of mind. Playing mind games worked for me before (and really well too) so I thought it was the way to go. Didn't work on all guys though. I learned my lesson.
    A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything

    She uses logic and manages her emotions

    She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them

    She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions

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