You can all say that porn is healthy or whatever other crap your going to say and him smoking pot is "fine as long as there are no other problems"
the fact here is these issues upset this woman to the point that she is in therapy and reaching out to strangers for advice so it IS a big issue. Of course men who watch porn are gonna say its normal but the truth is this man has an addictive personality and his "need" to watch porn sneakily is a red flag. He knowd how much it upsets her-yet refuses to stop-not bevause he doesnt want to but because he cant.
She said they have a great sex life so why sneak around watching porn ehind her back? Lots of men dont feel a need to waych it whilst in a healthy relationship and i think its wrong when it gets to the point that it causes this much problems.
Also tassy said she has done sexual acts that made her feel ashamed to make him happy. That is wrong and it leads straight back to the porn addiction that he has