Originally Posted by
PaulieWalnuts
None of that, really, basil.
"none of that" meaning that she's not into giving you pleasure? I think we're starting to get somewhere.
I'm not going to buy into the whole "she's faking/not faking" because I'm not there. And each person's sexual experience can be so different. However, if she's not into giving pleasure to you, I think it's fair to say that she doesn't enjoy lovemaking. And if she doesn't enjoy lovemaking, she's not going to seek it out.
So, I would say that either
a) She is having a purely physical sexual response to what you're doing to her, but her mind isn't into lovemaking as a whole. It's like how I (and probably many other women) could potentially have multiple orgasms with a vibrator to fill in time....without actually being highly aroused. Orgasm can happen without arousal.
b) She fakes orgasm to keep you happy but isn't into lovemaking as a whole.
Unfortunately, both of these options would have her not being into the whole sharing, caring part of sex. It's tough, but it would explain why she doesn't seek out sex.
Do you think she loves and adores you? I do know a woman who was in possession of a high sex drive. But his morbid obesity and marital issues turned her off having sex with him. She was able to get herself past the turn offs and have sex with him, but I'd be guessing that if she wasn't a highly sexual person, she would have simply rejected sex. I'm rambling. I guess the question is: would she be like this with all men - or is it a lack of connection between the two of you?
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