Ever love someone, but hate their child?

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Haha - you childless males crack me up. You have no idea what you are talking about. (that was directed to mish, not cain.)

[Cain]

Good...don't. I have no problem with males not wanting to sign up for that - in fact, I encourage single males to avoid dating mothers. It is a huge responsibility that is generally thankless. Why bother?

Exactly. A male entering into that kind of deal is making a mistake in my opinion. The children will always come first and he'll be in an awkward situation. I didn't listen to my step mother. **** that. She's not my mom, so I felt that I didn't need to listen to her. Aside from the fact that she was a bitch.

I can't imagine letting myself enter into that same scenario and not expect the kids to look at me like that.

[Cain]

Haha - you childless males crack me up. You have no idea what you are talking about.

If I don't know what I'm talking about, feel free to educate me.

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Oops - go back and read my edit, cain.

[Cain]

Oops - go back and read my edit, cain.

Got ya!

It's just weird to me how so many people are willing to try to step in as parents. It's like they don't even realize what they are signing up for. I don't even think they really understand that they aren't just in a relationship with the mother... they are in a relationship with the child too... and the parent is screwing up the children too if they aren't careful who they bring in. Too many people going in and out of that family is liable to make the kid grow up with some issues regarding relationships.

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...Especially when you have a bunch of yahoos who insist on having a part in discipline... is it any wonder that the kids act out? I think not. These poor kids have their families destroyed, and both parents running around dating like teenagers. The kids have no say in who stays or who goes, and they are supposed to treat every single date like they are the cat's meow. Stupid parents.

[Mish]

Haha - you childless males crack me up. You have no idea what you are talking about. (that was directed to mish, not cain.)

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[Cain]

...Especially when you have a bunch of yahoos who insist on having a part in discipline... is it any wonder that the kids act out? I think not.

Like I said, that's why I won't get into a relationship with a woman with a kid. I'll be damned if I'm going to pay to support the child and not be able to discipline him/her when they act up. It's a lose/lose situation. And honestly, I don't think a step parent should be allowed to discipline the child. Just like I don't think a relative should be allowed to either. The parents are the only ones that should be able to. So, I won't even deal with it.

[Mish]

The parents are the only ones that should be able to.

What happens if there are no parents?

[IndiReloaded]

Did any of you catch the post where Chris said he was in a *previous* relationship already that involved a single mom & kid? And that he 'loved' that kid (in much the same tone one would describe a cute pet). Wow, that must have been disappointing for the little git when they broke up.

I get the strong sense this poster is a superficial spreader of misery.

And he only values the advice from those w/o kids, which makes him foolish to boot.

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And he only values the advice from those w/o kids,

Who better to affirm he is behaving appropriately than others who have no idea what they are talking about?

[Mish]

Like Vash

[Illusional]

hrmm.... personally i would want to raise my children as a "learn and find out" method. i learn things the hard way and i would expect them to be the same. if you want to stick your finger in the socket after i've told you not to, then it's your shock and not mines.

being that you have a bit of an age difference, she has to have grown up a bit faster that you did. i'm sure that she doesn't really know how to deal with her child, but she feels that this is the correct manner of how it should be raised. i still think that for now, all you can do is go along with her and try to coach her. however, if you two can't agree on how this child should be raised, then i would end the relationship, because ultimately she's stuck with her child for life. you are like it or not, a possible passing phase.

raverboy

[misombra]

this relationship is doomed.

[Cain]

What happens if there are no parents?

Then the adoptive parents would do it.

The point is, most kids will be resentful of someone that isn't their parent trying to punish them.