I get rejected after showing my photo..my heart breaks

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Asip4u, I plan on doing my search off line. Those places seem to be ideal. When I was going to my old gym I had an opportunity to date some of the girls there who were in my aerobics class but I was married so that was completely out of the question at the time. The compliments I've been getting about my weigh loss then really helped my confidence which explains one of the reasons why I spent more time there. I'm may eventually do the dance club scene again, massage parlors or heck even an off line dating club.


Thank you Lovable, the photo you saw was when I visited with a friend. I lived in Indy at the time but have been up there many times. Chicago is a great place to meet women and I would't mind going up there again since I sorta know where some of the hot spots are. As far as the cold there ain't nothing like a nice warm body to cuddle up next to...forget the hot coffee.


cmacattack1:

I am very similar to you. I've always been good at working out and everything, but despite all that, the feeling of confidence doesn't just project from that. You probably have some self esteem issues and I know exactly how you feel. I've always been uncertain with girls, especially sober. You are always self conscious, and you want them to like you and you try too hard. I get it exactly.


Interesting similarity...yes, the confidence projected from working outs didn't necessarily have girls come crashing down my door. If that were the case I probably wouldn't be here right now. Yes, I do have some self esteem issues I need to work on. I think by reading other threads and actually getting some real life practice in the dating scene may help me over time. My biggest fear is rejection but I must learn how to deal with it better and keep shopping until I find a good bargain.

You more or less know what your strong points are right? Are you a funny goofball (like me)? Just play to that. I make fun of myself all the time and it works. Are you more the intellegent, quieter type? Play to that too. Quieter people are usually pretty good listeners and that's a great quality to have in a mate. Ask them questions and listen to their answers and talk to them about them. That never hurts.

I'm an all around kind of guy depending on the mood and atmosphere. Sometimes I enjoy slacking off by acting like a goofball and there are times where I will be quite depending on the type of conversation taking place. Q&A is a great method to use when getting to know them. I'm pretty observant when it comes to highlighting a certain interest a person may place emphasis on during the conversation. I like to be a good listener with good eye contact but I also like to break the ice (tension) in the room with some off the wall unexpected humor so I can see her smile or laugh.

I'm sure at your age, people are looking for more serious more to settle down. I know it's difficult, it's strange getting back out there but you are you. You have enough to make one woman fall in love with you and marry you. And there isn't just one person out there for us. There is another. Don't rush into it, let it develop naturally.

I'm sorta in the middle at this point when it comes to age. I'm not looking to settle down today. You're right there are millions of women out there for you and me. Like one guy said on here there are plenty of fish out there. You just need the right bait that's all. I can be a very romantic guy if I put my heart and mind to it. I know somewhere out there she is waiting for someone like me. It's just a matter of time I guess.