i got my reply...

[DarkHelmet82]

Im not telling him to hold back his feelings, just dont expect things to be the same, and dont expect another incident to not happen. Im just saying.. be careful because it may happen again.

[Love&Life]

Horseyguy, really good post, i think you are bang on the money there. Everything you've said is how it's been the last two days, she feels completely comfortable with how she feels about me, i've not held it against her whats happened, its just given us reasons to talk very openly.
She's done her best to reassure me of her reasons and why this will never happen again and i've been positive with her and supportive, there has been no sulking (only in private occasionally, and on this forum, lol)
To be honest though most of the last two days has been us enjoying each others company again, being close and affectionate.
Definitely a 'glass half full' ;-)

And in case it doesn't.... you know where to find us.

[steviej]

Im not telling him to hold back his feelings, just dont expect things to be the same, and dont expect another incident to not happen. Im just saying.. be careful because it may happen again.

As far as i'm concerned, i either fully commit or back out completely. I think it's worth the gamble. I don't want to be all cautious and worried what might happen as that just leads to insecurities and will affect my confidence. She seems happy now with how things have turned out, it seems to have been very good for her to have dealt with her problems, so in the long run this may have been very beneficial for us both.
You guys will be the first to know of any developments, lol.