Originally Posted by
Borealis
I don't think anymore of it than if you had multiple partners. But, if shes insecure about it and makes it an issue then I don't think its sexy at all. If shes comfortable about it then so am I. There is nothing worse than someone who is insecure about their situation as it reflects the nature of how the relationship is going to be in the future. Having to help a person feel good about themselves isn't anywhere I want to be.
Exactly. Insecurity is a big turn off. It's fine if she has "first time jitters" but her insecurity is a real turn off for me. So, if she's a confident virgin, I'm all in. Oops, did I say that out loud?
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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