GF dropped bombshell last night

[Gigabitch]

There will be no update. She buried him in the back yard. Poor BrianK.

[LoVeSyCk]

Wow that really sucks All I can say is good luck! I'm on your side!

[blackiesharley]

There will be no update. She buried him in the back yard. Poor BrianK.

Sheeshhh Giga, I'm starting to think you're right. Earth to BrianK, come in please?

As of late yesterday and especially today, my situation has taken a very un-expected and strong turn for the better. (All her doing) Don't have time to go into details right now as I'm meeting a buddy for dinner in awhile but let's just say I'm so happy I could cry. Litteraly.

The hard core fact is that I can deny and lie to myself all I want and sometimes I have to for self-protection, but I have very deep feelings for New Orleans Gal. If there is no drug problem as I have mentioned eariler, (and I'll find out soon) I think we are the perfect couple if we can ever learn (or have the opportunity) to communicate a bit better. After all, close as we have become, we're still getting to know each other.

Seems like we're both trying, just in different ways and speeds.

[blackiesharley]

Uh oh.... 24 hours later and still radio silence from BrianK.

Now I am really worried. I mean, we do have a little mutual support community going on here which is great and that's what the forum is for, but we have to keep in touch, after all, we're real people behind the keyboards.

BrianK??? You out there?

[DigitalFlirting]

The thing is, my friend, that you cannot do anything to mend the situation. You feel helpless, and the truth is, you are. This is her decision and she must make it herself. If she doesn't believe that it can go on, she will make that decision in her own time.

If this happens, then I am sorry. But I believe that when one door closes, many more open. You do love her, and I can see that, but I doubt you'd want anyone to stay with you if they weren't happy. You have made a big call, and you have done the right thing. Don't let anyone tell you that you haven't.

If it ends, then it ends. In time, she may come to realise what she lost, but do not count on that alone. Be with your friends and family and they will be your support.

I was in her position with my ex. I didn't meet anyone, but I just wasn't in the relationship. But yet, I couldn't be bothered ending it because it was what I got used to. It's a harsh truth, but these things happen.

After a while, I did end it due to being unhappy. She was unhappy to because she could tell I was. It was the best thing for us. Now we're great friends even after near 4 years of being together. She may not be my soulmate, as this one may not be yours, but you must see light at the end of the tunnel.

Things get very difficult ver quickly and you wonder if you can ever live without that person. It's a weird feeling, and you feel so isolated and cold.
After a while, though, it passes and you come to grips with it all. As time passes, the experience gets easier to deal with and you will start coming out of your shell once more.

It's very easy to be caught up with the depression and self pity, but it's not really worth it. The painful truth is that life does go on and doesn't wait for you to heal, and one of the best ways I've healed myself is to get out with friends again and just have a good time. Smiles are infectious and they do wonders for broken hearts.

[BrianK]

The update is we are back together and a lot stronger and more in love than ever before. Much to my surprise. There is more to the story and things have been spoken etc etc

We are both really happy and we are going to make this work both of us, I feel I'm so lucky that shes back with me as I dearly love her, she is my soulmate, best friend and lover, we lost our way for a while more me than her but this has given me a right kick up the butt and will never take her for granted again

[BrianK]

Uh oh.... 24 hours later and still radio silence from BrianK.

Now I am really worried. I mean, we do have a little mutual support community going on here which is great and that's what the forum is for, but we have to keep in touch, after all, we're real people behind the keyboards.

BrianK??? You out there?

Really sorry dude, if you look at my update this is why lol been busy rebuilding our relationship. I'm one very lucky dude

[BrianK]

There will be no update. She buried him in the back yard. Poor BrianK.

Lol very much alive we more likely to do other things in the back yard

still have not started smoking again, I'm reading the Allan Carr book on Easyway to give up its very effective

I dont think I'm ever gonna be a smoker again, the book has almost re programmed my way of thinking about smoking

[TAVS]

Oh Come on Brian; Spill it!!!

[BrianK]

Spilll It!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Its not that exciting really just that lets say certain people were pushing her in a direction that she didn't want, and it messed her head up and needed to get away from it all to think about it all

[BrianK]

The main point really is completion of the thread and its not impossible to recover a relationship if you work at it. I really thought I had it with this one and we'll never get back together

[BrianK]

suicide maybe??? that sucks

What ? nope not at all

[BrianK]

how are things looking for you blackiesharley? are we mirroring each other still ?

[TAVS]

Its not that exciting really just that lets say certain people were pushing her in a direction that she didn't want, and it messed her head up and needed to get away from it all to think about it all

So we're good enough to spend our time listening to your problems but not good enough to hear what happened? Okay.

[Gigabitch]

Brian, I'm really glad to hear things are going better. it sounds like you're making some serious changes. I hope she's making some changes, too, because you taking 100% of the responsibility for your relationship problems can't be quite right.

Tell me that isn't what you've done just to get her back....