Love can drive you crazy!

[1averagejoe]

Typical teenager with love problems coming on here and getting pissed off that we tell her something she doesn't want to hear.

I don't know why but this girl makes me think of this:
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XH7p3xWyv7g"]YouTube - My Birthday Diaster[/ame]
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SeQ9A99pUQg&feature=related"]YouTube - I'm not a spoiled brat![/ame]
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbPvE7miKpY&feature=related"]YouTube - MacKenzie gets what MacKenzie wants[/ame]

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Lol 1aj, that little brat disgusted me, whether it was real or not. Then turns around and sells the car for $9.99.

[starbuck]

Personally I get a little annoyed when people come onto LF to just "vent." It's not a diary. It's a forum and the regulars here have some really good advice to give. Everyone needs to vent sometimes of course, but remember that this forum is interactive and others will have their opinions, whether you like them or not.

I'm sure there are other forums out there, where people will just go "there there" and ehug you, but this is not one of them (thank gawd).

Lana, I encourage you to stick around the forum and continue to post here. You'll get more out of people being straight up with you IMO.

[bluesummer]

I agree, starbuck. I came on this forum about 4.5 yrs ago while in the midst of a shitty relationship that I was still holding onto. When I came on here and told people my situation I didn't get what I expected.....I got a whole bunch of people being straight up with me. Telling me everything I DIDN'T want to hear. I was really pissed off and offended.

In the end, it did me good. I'm now happily engaged to a wonderful man, and I can look back on my old threads and laugh at my own silliness. I credit to forum for snapping me back to reality. It took awhile, but it helped.

No one on this forum comes here to purposely spread animosity (well, there are a FEW). For the most part, we're harsh because that's the way the world is. We call it as we see it. You don't have to agree with us, but keep in mind there are quite a number of us who've been on this forum a long time, have been in many many more relationships, and have advice that comes from experience. We've also seen the same relationship 'problems' come up again and again from different posters, and the end result is pretty much always the same. You'll have to forgive us for the 'I told you so" attitude most of the time.

Lanna, sorry if we offended you. Try to take the criticism with a grain of salt and not react so harshly. Firing back at people just fans the flames. Also, try to read a little more deeply into the things we're saying. The comments aren't always as superficial as you're making them out to be....quite often they have applicable points you just need to dig deeper to understand.

[vashti]

What kind of vascular malformation of the tongue causes infertility?

[excowho]

Guys, I think the point was made.

Let it go?

[IndiReloaded]

Luckily for me I've never been easy. I've only had sex with three guys in my life

That's all relative. I happen to think 3 guys at your age is a lot.

[IndiReloaded]

SO PEOPLE please tyr and STICK to the issues.

I came here to talk about my BOYFRIEND not my freaking cockyness, my dad, or my exfriends. God damn.

I think ppl ARE discussing your core issue, Lanna. We've been telling you to be careful about your ex-teacher/BF for a while now. You just tend to ignore the more mild posts (like mine).

I am extremely successful. I am NOT conceited though. I don't run around shooting how cute I am.

You are not 'extremely successful' at 20 and working in a tanning salon as a manager. Sorry kiddo. My company hires girls like you & call you 'managers' so that you stick around just a little longer to make our lives easier. You don't make 6 figures doing what you do, you don't get career satisfaction nor longterm respect doing that. Unless you want to open your own chain of salons?

Your boss, whoever they are, is stroking your ego to keep you there a while longer b/c its damn *hard* right now to keep entry level ppl in a job like yours for more than a couple years (you said you have only worked there a year). You are very naive, Lanna, about how the world works. I've read this now in at least two instances: your shitty BF and your job.

Stay in school. Learn, grow. Don't be too tied to anything or anyone at this time in your life.

Tell me you're 'extremely successful' in ten years when you have an education and a real job. Right now you're just a kid out of high school.

This is the way I see it. I'm not giving you relationship advice, because I don't see a relationship here. I see an immature man taking advantage of the vulnerable and not entirely developed emotions and rationale of a teenager. Proof? You're crying because you love him TOOOO much and because he doesn't get you a glass of water. Think he does that over you? Nope.

I have a real problem with people who are supposed to be mentors and persons of trust taking advantage of people they are supposed to give the mentorism and guidance to. It's a violation of their profession, IMO. Which to me, makes your 'bf' a scumbag, and quite frankly, if he were in my group of friends, he'd no longer be a friend.

Oh God, thank you BlueSum for this. QFT.

Guys, I think the point was made.

Let it go?

Its been made now, with BlueSums last post.

Think about these things, Lanna, and protect yourself. You are very vulnerable in certain ways, but I also believe you are inherently intelligent, just lacking experience. SB is right, you are barely a teenager and there is *nothing wrong with that*. These are just normal growing pains you are experiencing. Try to stay calm about ppls advice & learn from it, not take it too personally.

[IndiReloaded]

ISo please stop saying he is using me or that he is just trying to boost his ego or he is desperate. He isn't. He loves me and I love him. It's more then just sex or just a two month thing. I may only be 18 years old but I know when something is real.

You may love him, but he IS using you. You don't want to believe it b/c you are, frankly, addicted to the hormones and the way he makes YOU feel. That's not love, btw.

Just to give you an idea, I'm going to have EVERYONE post on here who was dating their "true love" at 18 and whether or not they are still together. Look for the thread.

[DoesntMatter]

I have no problem with you whatsoever Lanna. I think you'd be a great addition to this forum as a regular poster. Me and boobaa always flame the shit out of each other, yet I'm glad he posts here and I still love the guy

I'm a 19 y/o male and think it would be nice to have a female perspective of someone my age just to take a peek inside your mind

To be honest, the only reason I was negative to you is this: You clearly have a nice sexual life, porked a few fellas, and your boyfriend can probably throw his dick around real well. And that's great. However, it's people like you from that different style of life who think less of people like me

[bluesummer]

However, it's people like you from that different style of life who think less of people like me

People like you? What do you mean DM?

[1averagejoe]

People like you? What do you mean DM?

Geeks that don't get laid.

Sorry DM. <3

[IndiReloaded]

Geeks that don't get laid.

They DO, tho. They just get it later & better. Seriously, if DM becomes a medico he'll have more than he knows what to do with.

[1averagejoe]

They DO, tho. They just get it later & better. Seriously, if DM becomes a medico he'll have more than he knows what to do with.

I agree...he's going to be an old ass pimp.

[TheGreek]

I'm with DM, it's nice to have a couple younger people on here for that different perspective.

I'll say this and it pretty much agrees with what most of the other people have been telling you about cockiness and all that. Your attitude is clearly a byproduct of your upbringing/mother. Everybody has given you great advice.

One thing I want to add: DO NOT MOVE TO NEW YORK AND TAKE ONLINE CLASSES!

The odds are against you at ever getting your degree. Also, you're 18 years old and are on a full ride scholarship. You're going to throw that all away just to go to NY? I mean, I understand that you're crazy about the guy and all, but as someone said before, no one can take your education away from you. I wouldn't give that up. My 2 cents, take it or leave it.