
Originally Posted by
misombra
i'm 1000% sure those unmarried, 40+ couples could really give a shit about what outsiders think about their relationship.
Well, I know both. 40 somethings married and not. Together for 20+ years, so I can comment.
First major difference - the ones who aren't married don't have children. Second - the *woman* is the one who doesn't want marriage. The guy is cool with status quo, married or not, no matter to him.
I don't notice a difference in the quality of their love (far as I can tell). Tho, in general, it seems to me the unmarried LTRs treat each other better. But that could simply be b/c they don't have kids so most of their energy is focussed on each other. Kids changes the dynamic.
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