Originally Posted by
Gigabitch
I don't want you do leave, Stuart. You're not just leaving her, you're abandoning your kids. Don't freaking do this!
I've come to the conclusion that Stu actually decided to leave some time ago. Now he's just trying to seem as if he's tried every avenue.
Sorry Stu - from one whose been there, I know it takes MUCH longer than a few half-hearted tries to even see the HINT of progress. One trip to your priest just doesn't cut it. You two need to be in something like a year of counselling, single, then together, for me to believe you have actually explored all avenues.
You could decide from this process, for example, that maybe getting a 'silent mistress' is the answer. And no divorce until the kids are older, but you can't seem to think out of the box on this.
Whatever helps you to look at yourself in the mirror, tho. I'm not saying your wife is any better. If she were posting here, she'd get more than an eyeful. But I am saying that I can see the source of at least some of your marriage problems and they aren't all from her.
I believe Girl is right. You are both selfish. Congrats on being another statistic and producing another generation of kids like Girl, here.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh