Why are girls so confusing???

[Fajemeister]

Anybody? What does she mean by that?

[Junsui]

Wow this thread is 7 pages now!

[shh!]

Wow this thread is 7 pages now!

What's it about again?

[Fajemeister]

im not gonna lead u on and tell u ur cute smile makes me smile or that wen u say nice things to me it makes me feel goood- or better yet when u tell me the right things to do- i really try n do them- im not gunna admit it cuz i dont want u to think i have this supepr huge crush on n n were back were we started

I was hoping someone could tell me what she meant by that. It confuses me cause she says she doesnt want to lead me on but she does it, and she says she wont admit it, but she already admited it at that point.

[Rosebud]

I'm sorry but you've lost me. And to be frank, we have no idea what she meant by that since we don't know her. I have no idea what she was trying to say, I can't understand it at all.

[Fajemeister]

I'm sorry but you've lost me. And to be frank, we have no idea what she meant by that since we don't know her. I have no idea what she was trying to say, I can't understand it at all.

I was hoping someone would know. I mean to me it sounds like she is leading me on but at the same time saying no to being with me.

[Junsui]

Hey, do you ever figure things out on your own? I'm not trying to be mean, but everytime she says one word to you, you come on here and ask us what she meant. Our answers will probably remain the same. She wants you to step up and take control, but seeing how you have to come on here and ask about every little tiny thing, I think she's with the wrong guy if she's looking for an assertive man.

[Rosebud]

'm so confused...throughout this thread you have said you didn't know what you wanted, then you said she wants you to make moves towards her. You ahve also said she wants to be just friends. This whole thing is confusing me.

Do you want to be in a relationship with her?

Does she want to be in a relationship with you?

if so, then start telling her all those mushy things couple love to tell each other. If not, then just tell her fine and you'll be friends and don't flirt with her at all. If you can figure out where you guys stand (friends/ or more) then I can try and answer your previous post.

[Fajemeister]

'm so confused...throughout this thread you have said you didn't know what you wanted, then you said she wants you to make moves towards her. You ahve also said she wants to be just friends. This whole thing is confusing me.

Do you want to be in a relationship with her?

Does she want to be in a relationship with you?

if so, then start telling her all those mushy things couple love to tell each other. If not, then just tell her fine and you'll be friends and don't flirt with her at all. If you can figure out where you guys stand (friends/ or more) then I can try and answer your previous post.

I would be in a relationship with her. I think she would too, but she is afraid of change. She is scared that if something goes wrong she will end up lossing everything and getting hurt. I really want to tell her to stop living based on "what ifs". Yet at the same time she tells me she wants me to make a move. So Im asking what kinda move i should make. Next time i see her I WILL DO IT. I just dont want to come on too strong and scare her. Something thats smooth. I was thinkin about whispering something nice in her ear then puting my fingers on her chin and going in for a kiss.

[Fajemeister]

Hey, do you ever figure things out on your own? I'm not trying to be mean, but everytime she says one word to you, you come on here and ask us what she meant. Our answers will probably remain the same. She wants you to step up and take control, but seeing how you have to come on here and ask about every little tiny thing, I think she's with the wrong guy if she's looking for an assertive man.

Honestly I see where your comming from, but there is just soo much more stuff that we talk about that i dont even say on here. Im just looking for a suggestion on how to take control and step it up, what would u girls want to see happen if you were in this situation and you were her?

[Mish]

I want to, but how do I go about acting that way when Im talking to her? We always talk online, but how do I act and what do I say to make me seem in control? And should I try and put a move on her? like i mean a physical move?

If by "acting that way" you mean asking her what she wants a relationship or friendship or other (Fwb and so on) and by "physical move" you mean arranging some place to meet with her to discuss this, then yes. That's what you should do...

[Rosebud]

See all this is for you to figure out. Yes she wants you to make a move as everyone has said from the beginning. Go with how you feel. I agree with Junsui!

[Fajemeister]

If by "acting that way" you mean asking her what she wants a relationship or friendship or other (Fwb and so on) and by "physical move" you mean arranging some place to meet with her to discuss this, then yes. That's what you should do...

By physical move I mean like kissing her, you know, stepin up and makin a move on her.

[Mish]

By physical move I mean like kissing her, you know, stepin up and makin a move on her.

But how do you know that's what she wants until you discuss what she wants with her? (I.e. everything will differ greatly if she wants a relationship or a friendship for example)

[Fajemeister]

But how do you know that's what she wants until you discuss what she wants with her? (I.e. everything will differ greatly if she wants a relationship or a friendship for example)

Well she says make a move. What other kinda move could be made besides a physical one? i.e. kissing