I think there's a fine line you have to balance. In the end, it's all about who the girl IS. In other words, look, it may be that you get to be older and you look back at this and say "what was I thinking?" Maybe it's NOT the end of the world that the girl isn't a virgin. But at the same time, her attitudes and beliefs are what you need to figure out. Like, if this non-virgin had sex with someone, that's still different than if she's someone who thinks that sex isn't a big deal and that it's OK to be promiscuous (unless those are your attitudes, too). If you got involved with someone like that and you felt differently, it would probably not work out in the long run. That's just my opinion. But it's good that you're through it. Good luck.
Listen to cbad, everybody. He is an expert on porn.
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.
Are you saying his real name is John Holmes? lol
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
What an ignorant comment.
Oh.. dont be sad by knowing that she is no more virgin. Just start your first sex with non virgin. This will increase your confidence and then u can also find a virgin.
The dude had unrealistic, fantasy like expectations....I doubt he will ever learn the right lesson from all of this. He blames her for his hurt when it's his own fault.
You can´t imagine how usual is that situation.
What you are feeling is pretty normal…let me tell my own experience…I went thought the same experience a years later.
You feel cheated right? How come she had “given” that to him if they were not meant to be together? How come she did that with him, since YOU are the love of her life, right?
Her comes my advice from the heart…That does not matter…really…
Why?
1) This girl is not an object…she is a person…she has her life…so don´t treat her like an object…she had this experience
2) Sex is part of the relationship, not the whole relationship. I have met girls that had great sex lifes with guys that didn´t pay any attention to them.
So, understand this as normal, she had this experience as other experiences in her life and you had yours...
Don´t spend your time asking yourself why she did that...Focus on her…on pleasing her…You will be amazed when she tells you that you do it much better than the past one…
Old thread!!!!! the OP is long gone. Post on threads that are one or two days old.