i dont want to be a girlfriend, I want to be a wife...my boyfriend and me have been together almost 7 months..i am very sensitive to the fact that its important not to be with a man too long if he doesnt marry you, because of something that happened to me in my past...
My boyfriend and me get along pretty good...but I am worried that I am not sure if he has some intention of marrying me, or if he really just plans to be bf/ gf for a time, with no particular plan for the future?
because of a lesson I learned in my past, I dont subscribe to the line that you need tons of time to wait for the man to marry you...more times than not, in those cases, the man is just stringing the woman along, imo, from the couples I have seen, and my own experience.
i learned a real important lesson that made me feel if you are with someone that you love, and get along with, etc. and it has been half of a year, at that point you should be hearing talk about marriage...
but my bf doesnt. When his friend told us he was gonna propose to HIS girlfriend, that reminded me to not just sit around forever waiting and hoping he'll marry me, and then he ends up leaving for someone else and I get scr****. So when his friend told us he is gonna marry his girlfriend, later on I brought up subject of marriage to my bf...obviously I didnt propose, maybe im old fashioned, i would leave that to him. I dont really think its a good idea for the woman to propose...but after half a year together, i think its fair and understandable for me to want to know where this is headed. So i brought up the subject with him and he said he loves me, but isnt ready for thinking about marriage...
i can understand if he doesnt want to get married quite yet, but what concerned me was the fact he didnt seem that interested in talking about it with me.
then I read this article that said a man usually in a short time of dating knows in his heart if he sees you as his girlfriend, or his future wife...there's a difference.
i do not want to be a hang out girlfriend, I want to be a wife..i want to live in teh same home with him, live daily life with him.
i sometimes get tired of the whole thing of me having to drive over there, pick him up, we go out, then i come back home alone...
I got scre**** in the past, and my daughter ended up very hurt because my ex fiancee after 18 months of me being faithfully by his side, he ended up assaulting me and then leaving for this other woman he had just met on the internet...
So bottom line, we've been together 7 months, I am starting to get turned off at times because we get along great, but I sometimes feel like a 20 yr old running around on dates with him. We are not 20, we're older, and I feel at this stage in life, sine we love each other and always want to be toghether, isnt it time to at least talk about the future, and make some type of plans?