So I have been "seeing" a guy from work for a year now. It started out as a hook-up I guess you could say. He just came out of a 6-year relationship with his then gf because she cheated on him. So it hurt him quite badly. I was upset but I chose to accept it as it was. After he told me he wasnt looking for anything serious it upset me more. I didnt want a fling. The next day he sent me flowers. Then he would constantly text and call me to hang out (never just for sex). As time advanced we started spending so much time together. Eventually it resembled a relationship. But it wasn't official. The time we spent together was never even based around sex. It may have been 20% out of everything else we did. He was so sweet and caring toward me. It was nothing like a friendship because we did everything a happy couple would do. But nothing ever in public or around friends. Which saddened me. Though he did introduce me to his family who is the world to him.
I stayed because I thought it would advance into something more down the road. But boy was I wrong.
Here we are after an entire year now and he tells me he doesn't want anything to do with a relationship and doesn't want a girlfriend right now. So I ended it. He cried and gave me space but it only lasted 5 days before he missed me terribly and said he didn't want to lose me. So I'm an idiot and got swept back in to this non-commital relationship. And I hate it, i think I deserve better. I hate what we have being hidden from public, it makes me feel so unimportant.
I constantly worry he's going to find someone else and I have no right to care because technically he is single. So I have to end it again. But I really don't want to hurt and I am afraid to move on. I'm so used to having him around. We see each other like 5 days a week. How do I get the strength to end this permanently and move on when I am in love? I think he is too, he just won't admit it.