Hi everyone,
This is going to be long but please bear with me and have a read and see what you think.
A bit of background info before I start. I am 17 years old and am at High School. I have never had a girlfriend before.
Ok, basically, six weeks ago, I started hanging out with a totally new group of friends. In this group, there was this girl Andie (I've changed the names), who had been in my class a few years previous. We had never got on before because I hung out with people that really bullied her and generally made her life a misary. However, a few weeks ago when I started hanging out with this new group of friends, I realised that she was in fact a completely different person to what I had previously thought.
Now, I am pretty good at maths and physics, and so at the tutorials, I started helping her out cos she struggles with maths and physics. After about two weeks, I realised that she had many of the qualitities that I look for in a girl. Like, I have attempted to get a girlfriend many times but to no avail. I tried to find someone to go to our school ball with, but of the two people I attempted to do anything about, pretty much the day before I was ready to ask them, they went out with someone else. This period was really low for me because I kept thinking that I would never get a girlfriend and all that sort of stuff. I thus decided that I was going to give up on trying to find a girlfriend and would concentrate on my study; which I did. I studied so hard, I had no social life at all. However, upon getting to re-know Andie, all that went out the window. I really really liked her. I knew this because, for me, to suddenly overcome giving up on finding a girl was not normal. I knew she was different to the other girls I had liked.
I am hopeless when it comes to girls. Whenever my friends would start talking about me liking someone in front of the girl I liked, I would go really red and wouldn't be able to look at them. I have also never told a girl, to their face, that I liked them. This time though, I told her straight to her face that I liked her. I didn't go red at all or anything like that, further reinforcing my thoughts that she was different to anyone else that I liked.
About a week later, I find out that she likes this other guy, Toby. Now this Toby has a bad reputation when it comes to girls. When he was sixteen, he got two of his girlfriends pregnant; and he just generally treats girls badly. Any of his previous girlfriends could tell you stories about what he did to them, how he treated them badly and cheated on them. Now, Andie takes things to heart all the time, even the smallest of things. So when I found out she liked Toby, my first thought was that she was going to get hurt. I also thought "how could she like someone like him over me??" I know that I can't make Andie like me, and I don't expect her to drop everything and start liking me; I am prepared to work for her love. But Toby is 'cool', he has a way with girls that I never will. She is falling into the same trap that a lot of girls have fallen into before. I'm not saying that because I am jealous; I admit, I am jealous. Toby is also a good friend if mine and so I know what he is like and that he will end up hurting her.
About two weeks pass by and I accept that she likes someone else, so I sort of drift away. She tells me that she feels bad about me liking her and her liking Toby because she used to like a guy who liked her best friend, and so she knows how I feel. She generally feels bad about it. But one day last week, we all plan to meet up for a study group. In the end it only ends up being Andie and I. So I go round to her house and spend pretty much the whole day with her alone. We don't just talk study things, we have a good chat about things. This reignites my strong feelings for her. I go home and instantly email my closest friend, Mike (who is good friends with Andie), telling him about my awesome day. He tells me that Andie and Toby aren't txting as much anymore and so things may not work out between them. Of course, I am pretty happy about this.
A few days later, a group of us meet up to study. A couple of hours in, the topic of conversation turns to relationships. Toby ends up telling us some of things he's done with girls. Sometime after this Andie quietly asks me if I still like her. I say that I will email her about it all. So I end up emailing her and telling her everything. She takes it pretty good. She tells me that she isn't sure about Toby anymore after what he had been telling us earlier. This gets my hope up slightly and so I reply, spilling out my heart to her. Here, I think I messsed up because she hasn't replied, or even acknowledged that she received it, or any of my txts to her.
The last four days, I have been on holiday and all I could think about was her. Pretty much nothing else. I know that I am only 17 and some of you probably think I'm too young to worry about all this, but I genually really do like her. I think it may even be bordering on the verge of love, even though love is a powerful word at my age.
I don't know what she thinks about me at the moment as I haven't talked to her in a few days, and Mike hasn't said anything about it (I keep pestering him about what is going on between Andie and Toby). So I have absolutely know idea what to do next. Any advice that anyone could give me would be muchly appreciated.
Thanks so much for reading, and sorry it is such a long story.
Thanks in advance.