Originally Posted by
imagineallthe
this will sound very boring, but you need to be yourself and relax about it. The guys i've fallen for have always had that confident quality (not ignorant or full of themselves). It's attracting to know they're in no rush, not looking to get laid. You DON'T have to know all the secrets, you DON'T have to know how to get girls - they come when you stop stressing about it. and whoever girls you attract that's only looking for status/money/good looks, etc., are not the kind of girls you would want. going out clubbing, making eye contact with a girl, and for have her to look away ignoring you, is no big deal! anyone can be shallow! it may seem like you want those girls - but when you get in a good relationship with someone, you'll realise nothing compares to someone who's in love with you : ) and the falling in love/being smitten, needs to be built on something more solid than "hey sexy, you look really good - wanna check out the poster collection of 'Saving Whales' in my room?".
and instead of direct flirting, just try smiling. Smile big, don't even care if she notices, just look her in the eyes and smile without any expectation. Girls can seriously smell expectations
it may even be in you just because you're really crazy about meeting some woman. Try to relax, give it some time. Guys have no idea how easy it actually is to get girls
wish you all the best.
Hmm... I partially agree with this.
For me, I'd say it's not all about confidence. Sometimes, it just matters who the person is. If I know a person has been with a surprising amount of people, I'll think "wow, if those relationships didn't work out,'I don't know how this one will." The one guy at school I would've gone for a bunch of years ago* would have been that one shy, selfless, quiet person who sat in the back of the class and never got in trouble. I'm also not like other people, so don't base your expectations off me. I'm just saying you don't NEED to be confident and know what you're doing for EVERYONE. That's just my two cents.
Also, as the person in the quote said, be yourself. Don't be someone else if that person is more/less confident than you are, or more/less "interesting" than you are. Act like you would around any other person. Girls are regular people, too.
* a bunch of years ago, as in before I realized I'm not into guys.
Last edited by Klim; 10-03-11 at 10:43 AM.
I am homosexual. A lesbian, actually. If you have a problem with that, then it sucks for you. It's not your problem. It's not even a problem. I quite like it this way.