Finding it difficult to really move on?
I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about a month ago. The relationship was horrible and it should have ended months ago which i only just realised now..
I am doing okay in a sense. Better than i ever have done trying to leave him anyway. But i still feel like i maybe havnt completely 'let him go'.. If that makes sense?
I havnt seen him for over 2 weeks now, which doesnt really bother me. I havnt had any urges to go see him like i used to whenever we broke up. I dont feel in love with him either.. But i do feel this intense anger against him. It makes me feel so crazy because the anger absolutely consumes me to the point i will cry, or just sit and stew over it.
I feel angry that he did this.. That he could make me feel like this, that he could ruin us with his controlling and unfair behaviour..
I also feel intense jealousy. This is what gets me.. I hate feeling like this as i feel it is the most useless feeling in the world. Since we broke up he has really gone all out. He moved in with his brother into a party home. He is always drunk, having fun with friends, gettng with other girls.. And i feel so angry about it while im home. I have responsibilties in my life, i have a job and a daughter and i feel angry that he just gets to go have all this fun while im at home.. My daughters in bed and im just lonely. Even though he was horrible, i sometimes feel like i got the short end of the stick.. that im the one who lost out.
It is strange because i dont even feel like i miss him or our intimacy.. This makes me sound like a horrible person but i just cant kick the feeling
I dont know why im posting this.. I just need to tell somebody and so far this site has been SO helpful.
So.. Is this a normal way to feel? How long will it take for this to go away or at least just not be so important to me..How can i fight these feelings?
Thanks
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